She Found Out That Her Husband Told His Affair Partner He’s Still In Love With Her After He Agreed To Stay In The Marriage And Work To Fix It
Throughout the entire time this 39-year-old woman has been with her 43-year-old husband, she has felt like he has simply settled for her.
Back in the beginning of their relationship, her husband did cheat on her, but they were able to move past it.
Then six years ago, her husband started spending a ton of time with one of his female friends whom he reconnected with.
She got to be close to this friend of her husband’s too, and so did their two children, who adore this woman.
Two years ago, her husband told her that he’s pretty miserable in their marriage. He also pointed out that they’re essentially roommates.
The reason why they’re not as physical as they used to be comes down to her feeling bad about herself after having their kids.
They had a few conversations about her husband’s unhappiness, and from there, she did her best to try to make him feel desired.
Sadly, her husband rejected her every time, stating that she shouldn’t only be motivated by his unhappiness to try to connect with him.
Her husband spent the next year pulling away from her, and then seven months ago, he revealed that he had an affair with his female friend and wanted to leave their marriage for her.
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“He said he was in love with her, and we’d be happier apart, etc.,” she explained. “We had two months of what felt like the worst period of my life, a lot of arguing.”
“I was adamant that he was giving up our entire marriage just for [a better physical connection] and our kids would be put through trauma over it.”
“We had a few sessions of marriage counseling to see if there was anything salvageable in our marriage, and being very honest about our needs and wants and love for each other, etc., we decided we would stay together and at least try and rebuild our marriage, we both felt it was worth a shot.”
They have been going to marriage counseling every single week since deciding to give their marriage another chance. And she says she has done everything to make their marriage work.
This all brings us to now; their personal life is fizzling out again, and their honesty is going along with it.
They have sought solace in comfort eating and gained weight because of their new habit. But then, she found out her husband has been messaging his affair partner.
He promised to cut contact with her as they attempted to fix their marriage, but after this woman got into a bad car accident, her husband messaged her to say that he was happy she was alive and doing well.
Her husband admitted to his affair partner that he looks up everything she posts on social media and still watches the steamy videos she sent him in the past.
As she kept looking through the messages, she learned her husband told his affair partner he still is in love with her.
“To be clear, and this is probably not great, but I wanted us to stay together, he was dead set on leaving,” she said.
“He didn’t beg/grovel or anything, which sucks; I convinced him to stay.”
She’s left wondering what she should make of her husband’s messages to his affair partner and if she should be worried about the progress they have made in rebuilding their marriage.
What do you think?
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