When this 20-year-old man was just 10-years-old, his parents sadly got divorced. Then, his mother – who is now 50 – quickly “shacked up” with her affair partner. But he had no clue about what happened at the time.
Despite that, he could still see how devastated his father was.
“My father is a stoic man, but I could see the sadness in his eyes when I went to live with my mother and her affair partner. She married him later,” he recalled.
So, it was only recently that he learned the truth – that his mom had been having an affair while married – from his dad. Apparently, his dad just thought he was finally old enough to know, and he was thankful to learn what really transpired between his parents.
However, he was also furious with his mother and wound up confronting her – and her affair partner-turned-husband tried to intervene.
“I told him not to open his disgusting mouth in front of me,” he revealed.
Thankfully, his mom’s husband left him alone, and he asked his mom a hypothetical. More specifically, he asked how she would feel if his own wife cheated on him, married the guy she was sleeping with, and still made his kids live in the same home as the guy.
At that point, his mom was left speechless and couldn’t give him a straight answer. All she kept doing was just repeating how she was sorry.
He wasn’t hearing it, though, and then gave his mom an ultimatum. He claimed that she either needed to divorce her husband and never see him again, or he would never speak to her again.
“I basically asked her to choose between her husband and me,” he said.
He gave his mom one month to do this, too, but she just kept bringing up excuse after excuse. For instance, she claimed that she was too old to just “start over” and swore she would do anything else to maintain a relationship with him.
Well, about a week ago, he was finally over it. He called his mom one last time and asked if she was going to get a divorce. Then, when she didn’t say yes, he just blocked her.
“She is out of my life. She did try to come to my apartment, but thankfully, my roommates told her to [get out],” he explained.
Still, his roommates have urged him to think over the situation again. But, in his mind, he just doesn’t have anything else to say.
“I gave her a simple choice. She chose him over me like she chose him over my father. That’s who she is. That’s who she will always be,” he vented.
Regardless, he still can’t help but wonder if cutting off his mom because she refused to divorce her husband really was the right way to handle this situation.
Can you understand how shocking it must have been to learn his mom was unfaithful? Do you think he had a right to go no contact with his mom or not? What would you have done in his shoes?
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By Katharina Buczek
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