She Got Called Selfish For Inviting Her Dad To Her College Graduation But Not Her Soon-To-Be Stepmother, So Now She’s Refusing To Attend Her Dad’s Wedding
This 23-year-old woman is graduating college this spring. Unfortunately, her college experience has been tough.
Halfway through college, she experienced health issues that caused her to no longer have the ability to have a baby. She was so distressed that she wasn’t sure she’d be able to graduate.
While her father supported her and empathized when she struggled with school, he was judgmental of her medical issues.
She needed treatment for her health, and the treatment caused her to lose the ability to have children. According to her father, she should have foregone treatment.
“He only had negative thoughts and demanded that I ‘woman up’ as it was selfish for me to go through with the treatment,” she said.
She was grateful that at least her father motivated her to focus on her classes. Her graduation is now quickly approaching.
Years prior, her dad began dating her soon-to-be stepmother, 55, and they are currently engaged, with the wedding quickly approaching.
Her stepmother had a daughter, 24, from a previous relationship. Sadly, her stepmother and stepsister detested her and her older brother, 24.
“They would bully us for being stupid and going nowhere in life, obviously all behind my dad’s back. The bullying got to be so much for my brother that he left with nothing and decided to start again on his own,” she explained.
Valerii Honcharuk – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
Until she moved away to attend college, she tried to cope with the situation with her stepmother and stepsister the best she could.
She tried to stay out of their way and not react or respond to their bullying. In her college environment, it was the safest and most “comfortable” she’d ever felt.
Her stepmother often gloated about how much of a “genius” her daughter supposedly was, adding that her daughter had a vision of succeeding in her future.
However, her stepsister dropped out of college because she had a baby and is no longer with the father of her child.
After her stepsister gave birth, her stepmother financially supported her daughter and grandchild. It doesn’t seem like her stepsister is planning to take any steps toward changing her life.
Finally, other family members started to realize her stepmother and stepsister weren’t as kind as they pretended to be. She noticed a shift and that her family prioritized her as the golden child.
Early in their childhood, her and her brother’s biological mom mistreated them so horribly that they distrusted people and struggled academically.
Her brother graduated two years ago from his electrician qualification training. After everything she and her brother experienced in their childhood, she wanted to invite him to attend her graduation.
“My dad is now refusing to come to my graduation as I’m now ‘excluding’ my stepmother, who’s apparently been there for me since day one. We had a huge fighting match about it, and he said I’m ungrateful for all the support she has apparently provided me,” she shared.
According to her father, she was a self-centered brat, and he didn’t want to attend her graduation if she wasn’t going to respect her stepmother. She countered that she would no longer attend his wedding if this was how he would treat her.
They haven’t talked since the argument, and her stepmother pushes her out of the way without a word when she is around her.
When she asked her brother for advice, he advised her to let it go and settle down, but she felt firm in her decision not to go to their father’s wedding.
What advice would you give her?
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