She Moved Too Fast With Her Boyfriend And Wants Him To Move Out

Back in high school, this 35-year-old woman met her ex-husband and they were married for 15 long years.
Last year, her ex-husband cheated on her in a way that she says was traumatic as well as dangerous.
She has since been left with a lot of trauma she’s been trying to deal with. When she and her ex-husband broke up, she attempted to plan out a future for herself, and it was the first time she was single in her adult years.
“I had absolutely no intention of settling down,” she explained. “About 4 months after the split, I met John very unexpectedly.”
“He totally swept me off my feet and loved me in the way I had been needing for so long that I wasn’t getting in my marriage.”
“I thought I was doing alright considering everything (I know now that I was just super disassociated). I’m normally really scared of heights, and I actually went skydiving and literally didn’t feel anything while doing it.”
Then, her mom sadly passed away from cancer, which only added to her struggles in life, as her mom was truly her best friend.
And then, she moved in with John. She was hesitant to do so, as she knew they were moving too quickly, but she rationalized her decision easily: they already were spending every single night together.
She also listened to people who were telling her it made more sense to pay one rent instead of two.

Yuliia – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
She’s been residing with John for eight months now, and she’s been dealing with a lot throughout this time.
She trying to heal and manage her grief, but she’s not feeling good about her life, and it’s dawned on her that she made a big mistake in agreeing to live with John.
Things have moved too quickly with them, and now she feels like she’s paying the price. While John is kind and works his heart out, he hasn’t been able to be supportive emotionally in the way she needs him to be.
“I have come to the realization that John and I need to back up,” she said. “I want him to move out, and we can continue to date (if he wants), but I need my own space, time, and liberties back.”
“I’ve already started to feel resentment towards having to take care of him and his daughter (whom I love dearly and treat like my own) and cleaning up after them, which tells me that I’m nowhere near ready for this type of commitment in a relationship right now.”
“I have so much healing to do and want to be able to be my best self in a relationship and I definitely am not right now. Has anyone ever successfully done this? I am kind of at a point where I love this man dearly, and if he loves me back, he’ll understand. If not, then he’s not the one for me. If he feels like not living together while I get my life together needs to end our relationship then I am going to let it because no matter how much I love him, I am putting myself first FOR ONCE IN MY LIFE.”
What advice do you have for her?
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