He Didn’t Pay For His Date’s Drinks At The Bar And Said If She Wanted To See Him Again, He Wasn’t Going To Be Her Sugar Daddy
This 25-year-old man recently met a 22-year-old woman on a dating app, and they hit it off from the start. So, they made plans to meet up at a bar after she got home from vacation.
As soon as they arrived, their chemistry was great, too. He thought the woman was very sweet, bubbly, and extroverted – which was perfect for him, as he has more introverted energy.
However, when he showed up at the bar, she had already finished a double vodka soda and opened up her own tab. So, he proceeded to open a tab of his own, and they both paid for their own drinks for the rest of the evening. He drank two beers; meanwhile, she had two double vodka sodas in total.
Then, towards the end of their time at the bar, his date apparently started to get “pretty touchy.”
“I decided I can’t hang too late, but clearly, we want more of each other and decided to go to the beach where we hooked up,” he recalled.
It was then that he learned his date had taken an Uber to the bar. So, he drove them both to the beach and then back to the bar after their hookup.
While sparks were flying during the hookup, though, things took a turn afterward while they were walking back to his car. At that point, his date made a lighthearted comment about how she was shocked that he didn’t offer to pay for her drink.
In response, he told his date that he was a “male feminist” who believed dates should be split equally.
His date wound up laughing at that, but she still proceeded to mention how, in the South, men typically always pay for dates.
Kalim – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
This made him kind of annoyed, too, yet he continued trying to keep things “lighthearted” by offering to pay for her Uber home. However, his date turned down his offer and brought up how he just didn’t pay for her drink again.
That pushed him to ask if, all banter aside, his date was being “for real.” To his surprise, she said yes, doubled down, and claimed she believed men should pay the tab on dates.
“I really had fun with you tonight, but if you want to see me again, I’m not gonna be your sugar daddy,” he replied.
Right after he said that he realized that his date was probably just drunk. So, he tried to tell her that they had a great time, and he didn’t want to end things on a bad note. This helped diffuse the situation, and he wound up giving his date a hug and a kiss before they both parted ways.
In hindsight, he also clarified how in any other situation, he actually would have paid for the entire date.
But, the woman had already opened a tab before he arrived and drank only one more cocktail afterward – which was $8.
“I had one opportunity to put her one additional drink on my tab and missed it, so I got hounded for it at the end of the night,” he explained.
“To her point, she did pay for two Ubers and her own drink, so I understand why she might feel she put way more into the date financially. But I did offer to pay for her Uber, and she declined.”
According to him, the woman was also “very apologetic” about the whole situation afterward. Nonetheless, he still can’t help but wonder if not paying for his date made him a jerk.
Do you think he was in the wrong for not paying? How would you have handled this situation?
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