He’s Considering Leaving His Girlfriend The Day Before They’re Supposed To Elope, But He Feels Bad About Not Marrying Her After 10 Years
This 35-year-old man and his girlfriend, who is 34, have been together for the last decade. Yet, over the past three years, he hasn’t been very happy with their relationship.
“I feel like I’ve been unhappy and not as in love with her, like before,” he admitted.
As time has gone on, he feels as though he’s been doing everything for his girlfriend. But all of his efforts go largely unappreciated.
He realizes that, no, he is not a perfect person, and he messes up from time to time, too. For instance, he sometimes partakes in habits that his girlfriend doesn’t particularly like – such as smoking.
“And anytime I do mess up, I have to spend at least a week trying to make it up to her,” he said.
In general, he also feels like he’s lost some confidence throughout their relationship since he always has to get his girlfriend’s input on any decisions.
She also gets annoyed with him for constantly asking for her opinion. However, if he were to just make decisions on his own, he claimed that his girlfriend would still get mad or “say something.”
As for their love life, that’s been on the rocks, too. Over the past two years, they have only slept together once.
Even when they go on vacation and visit destinations like Hawaii, they aren’t romantic. He tries to initiate, but his girlfriend always just turns down his advances.
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So, while they’d actually planned to elope very soon, he’s been having some doubts. On the one hand, he feels totally done with their relationship.
“The other side [of me] says 10 years is a long time, and I’d feel bad if I don’t marry her,” he vented.
He also clarified how, when his girlfriend isn’t angry at him, she’s a great person who he really loves.
“We’ve had our ups and downs during this time like any other couple,” he said.
Nonetheless, he’s not sure if he should really go through with their marriage.
That’s why he’s actually considering breaking up with his girlfriend the day before they were set to elope and tie the knot. But he’s not sure if that would be the right decision or not.
Does it sound like he and his girlfriend will have a happy marriage if he’s already unhappy in their relationship? Should he feel bad about the time that’s passed or change the trajectory of his future? What would you do?
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