His Girlfriend Asked Him To Lie About His Career In Graphic Design And Pretend To Be A Lawyer Just To Impress Her Parents
Have you ever felt like you’ve had to lie about what you do for a living because you felt like it wasn’t conventional enough for some people?
One man recently upset his girlfriend because he refused to lie to her successful parents about what he does for a living.
He’s 28 and has been dating his 26-year-old girlfriend, Sarah, for about a year. For the most part, they’ve had a great relationship, and he’s very happy with her.
However, Sarah recently asked him to do something that made him very uncomfortable.
In a few days, he’s going to meet Sarah’s parents for the first time, and she asked him if he would lie about what he does for a living when he meets them.
He’s a graphic designer who gets to work on exciting and creative projects for various clients.
“Sarah thinks that her parents will look down on my job because it’s not as high-paying or prestigious as some other professions,” he explained.
“Sarah comes from a family of professionals as her father is a lawyer and her mother is a doctor. She’s worried they won’t take me seriously or approve of our relationship if they know what I really do.”
Sarah had a plan in place and asked him if he would pretend to be a lawyer when he met his parents. She even took time to coach him on some legal phrases and came up with a background story he could tell her parents to make the lie seem more convincing.
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“I refused because I don’t want to start our relationship with her parents based on a lie,” he recalled.
“I told her if they can’t accept me for who I am, then it’s better to know the truth now rather than later. Sarah got really upset and said I was being stubborn and unreasonable. She thinks that I’m making this a bigger deal than it needs to be.”
Sarah also accused him of not understanding how important her parents’ approval of their relationship was to her. Since their argument, she’s been acting especially distantly and coldly towards him.
While he understands that Sarah wants her parents to like him and support their relationship, he feels like asking her to lie about what he does for a living is crossing a boundary.
“It’s not just a white lie; it’s a significant part of who I am and what I do,” he added.
Should he reconsider lying to Sarah’s parents, or is he doing the right thing by refusing to lie?
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