She Flipped Out On Her Fiancé In Front Of Guests And Embarrassed Him For Always Using Her Brand-New Car Without Asking
Just because someone doesn’t mind if you borrow their things without asking first doesn’t mean the same rule applies to your things.
One woman recently snapped at her fiancé during a gathering because he’s been using her debit card and new car without her permission, and she’s had enough.
She and her fiancé, Tom, live together, and he has a bad habit of taking her things without asking. Tom is fairly generous with his belongings and always tells her that if she ever needs anything of his, she can go ahead and take it without asking.
However, he has this notion that the same rules apply to all of her belongings, no matter how big or small.
“I have voiced multiple times that it’s rude not to ask and have voiced irritation when he uses my stuff without asking,” she explained.
“When it comes to small stuff, I get irritated because he never puts my stuff back where it belongs, and then I have to go on a wild goose chase to find the item.”
While Tom may have started by taking smaller items, his habit eventually progressed, and he’s been taking her debit card and car without asking. To make matters worse, her car is brand new, and she never explicitly told him he could use it whenever he wants, considering he has his own car.
She bought her car a week ago, and in that week, she woke up several times with her car missing from their driveway, as Tom would take it to the gym, grocery store, and other locations without asking her first.
Things came to a head a few nights ago while she and Tom were hosting some friends at their house. One of Tom’s buddies needed something from the store, so he offered to take him and instantly grabbed her car keys instead of his.
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She called him out in front of everyone, telling him he couldn’t take her car. When he asked why, she said he couldn’t take her car to drive his friend and had to stop taking her things without her permission.
Then, she told Tom that if he also had her debit card, he needed to set it down and leave it with her.
“He looked extremely embarrassed, put both my keys and my debit card on the counter, and walked outside,” she recalled.
“He came back maybe five minutes later, saying his buddy decided to take off for the night, and then he went upstairs to our bedroom.”
When the rest of their guests left, Tom told her she embarrassed him in front of everyone and that she should’ve waited to tell him how she felt until everyone was gone.
Additionally, Tom defended himself, telling her he had lost his debit card two days prior and took her car because he figured since she’s allowed to use his car, he’s allowed to use hers.
While Tom is trying to make her feel guilty for snapping, she feels she didn’t do anything wrong, as he should know he needs to leave her things alone.
Was she wrong to snap at Tom, or were her feelings valid?
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