She’s Pregnant But Doesn’t Want To Marry Her Boyfriend Because She Can’t Get Over His Disastrous Divorce

Four years back, this 30-year-old woman met her 36-year-old boyfriend, and two and a half years ago, they moved in together.
Throughout the majority of their relationship, her boyfriend has been divorcing his ex-wife, whom he separated from six years ago.
The divorce took four long years, and it was a disastrous process. Her boyfriend never anticipated that it would be so hard, but his ex-wife pretty much did everything in her power to draw out the separation and make his life impossible.
She’s currently pregnant, and two months into her pregnancy, her boyfriend’s divorce finally was completed.
She’s at the three-month mark right now, and her boyfriend brought up getting married in the near future.
The problem is that she already informed her boyfriend she has no interest in tying the knot while pregnant and adding to that, the divorce took a huge toll on her too.
She suffered along with her boyfriend, and it wasn’t an easy journey being with a guy in the middle of divorcing another woman.
“He’s a very kind and loving man, but I often felt dehumanized when it came to his status with his ex-wife,” she explained.
“I’m at this point where I don’t want to get married because of his divorce and all that mess. I’ve always wanted a wedding and all that, but I don’t have that wish anymore. I don’t know why; I don’t know how to describe this feeling that I have, but I just don’t want to.”

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“A part of me is disappointed that he let his divorce process go on for this long. We live in a European country where it’s normal not to get married, even though I know he’ll be very disappointed when I have to tell him that I don’t wish to get married right now. Being pregnant and getting married at the same time feels very wrong for me.”
She feels like her boyfriend already stole her wedding dreams away from her, and she’s not sure if that’s too dramatic of her to say.
She’s left with some complex feelings to work through after having to wait four long years for her boyfriend to be a free man.
She’s not even sure it’s worth explaining to her boyfriend exactly why she wants to hold off on getting married sometime soon.
“For those questioning why I got pregnant with a married man, I was 2 years ago diagnosed with stage 4 endometriosis, and I was advised to start having children ASAP, or else I might not be able to have children in the future,” she added.
Do you think she should sit down with her boyfriend and be honest about his disastrous divorce being the real reason why she’s turned off about tying the knot?
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