Whether Or Not It’s Okay To Snoop Through Your Partner’s Phone Is The Ultimate Question In Modern Relationships
These days, you’re bound to hear a lot of drama stories about people who discovered something shocking about their partner because they decided to go through their phones.
The idea of looking through your partner’s phone, either once or routinely, to get to the bottom of something is a hot topic of debate.
Some people believe they should have the right to go through their partner’s phone, as reading messages and looking at social media activity is a fast way to figure out if they’re doing something sketchy.
Still, many consider it an invasion of privacy and think it shows an extreme lack of trust if one partner requests to look at the other’s phone.
Today, we’ll weigh both sides of the debate and determine if looking through your partner’s phone is truly worth it.
Let’s start off by noting that it’s not uncommon, strange, or immoral to have the urge to look through someone’s phone. It’s a natural human curiosity.
Phones and text messages are usually very private, sacred experiences, and unless someone chooses to share that content with you, you often have no idea what’s being viewed or sent back and forth.
So, if you feel the urge to look through your partner’s phone, especially after noticing a change in their behavior, that’s totally reasonable. But the question is whether or not it’s a good idea to actually go through it.
Let’s start with some of the reasons why you shouldn’t look through your partner’s phone.
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When you do it without their permission, you’re violating their privacy to an extreme and throwing any smidge of trust out the window.
Even if your partner doesn’t find out you looked through their phone, it’ll still affect you, as you’ll likely see them in a different light.
Something else to remember is that you most likely will not feel any relief or reassurance after looking through their phone.
Chances are, you’ll find evidence to confirm what you suspected and feel heartbroken, or you won’t find anything and will feel guilty for looking through it.
The same goes if you ask your partner if you can look through their phone first – imagine how awkward it’ll be when you end up finding nothing. After that interaction, there will be a slight sting, and you may feel emotionally distanced from your partner.
Now, there are some positives to looking through your partner’s phone.
If you decide not to be sneaky and ask them outright if you can look through their phone or read messages they’ve exchanged with someone, and they don’t let you, then you may save yourself a lot of trouble and realize something is going on.
If they permit you to look through it and don’t find anything, then you can apologize for your accusations and move on.
Some people only condone sneaking through a partner’s phone if they suspect something absolutely terrible is going on, but for the most part, it’s smart to always get permission beforehand.
So, what should you do if you suspect your partner is doing something sketchy on their phone or behind your back in general?
Like most relationship issue scenarios, you should communicate your feelings to your partner. Tell them what you’ve observed, and be vulnerable in admitting your feelings of suspicion or distrust.
If you have these conversations with your partner and find that they’re mostly defensive, you can let them know you’d feel better if they let you look through their phone to prove nothing is happening.
Their reaction may please or disappoint you, and it’s up to you where you go from there.
Personally, I would be sure to observe my partner’s behavior, body language, actions, and relationship efforts to decide how I feel about them rather than worrying about what’s in their phone.
How do you feel about going through a partner’s phone?
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