Boyfriend Blindness Can Cause You To Defend All Your Partner’s Actions And Behavior, Whether It’s Toxic Or Not
Have you ever met someone who had fallen so in love with their boyfriend that they completely ignored certain red flags and had a hard time accepting that their partner was flawed?
That person could’ve been dealing with what’s called “boyfriend blindness.”
When we’re so excited about dating someone new, the last thing we want to do is admit that there is anything wrong with them or that our friends and family may not be their biggest fans.
This is the effect that takes place with “boyfriend blindness,” as people get so attached to their boyfriends that they begin defending all their actions and behavior, whether they realize it’s toxic or not.
If you’re in a relationship with a guy you’re nuts about, but something feels off when you bring him around or discuss him with friends and family, here are some signs you may have boyfriend blindness.
You are always rationalizing his bad behavior
If your boyfriend does something to make you upset, and instead of expressing your feelings, you overanalyze and try to rationalize their behavior, that’s not a very substantial way to live.
For instance, if your boyfriend yells at you and is cruel to you, you shouldn’t think, “Well, it’s not his fault; he’s really stressed from work, so I shouldn’t say anything.”
Stop rationalizing bad behavior and confront issues head-on, no matter the circumstances.
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You idolize him too much
While it’s sweet to see your partner in a beautiful light and for them to inspire you, you shouldn’t idolize them too much.
Don’t put them on a pedestal and start thinking of them so highly that you believe they can do no wrong. After all, we’re only human, and we can all be wrong from time to time.
You ignore your friends and family who don’t like him
Sometimes, friends or relatives can be too stuck up or picky when it comes to praising who we bring home. However, these people have likely known you longer than your boyfriend and only want the best for you.
Instead of being super quick to defend your boyfriend, listen and keep an open mind when your loved ones criticize him, as they may be trying to point out something important.
You make more sacrifices than he does
In relationships, each person should make sacrifices for the other and put in equal effort when possible.
If you’ve made most of the sacrifices and put in more effort, sure, it means you’re a good partner, but it also means your boyfriend is slacking.
See if he can meet you halfway and do as much for you as you do for him.
When boyfriend blindness goes a little too far, it can be toxic and hurt you in the end if he continues to disappoint you. Stay in touch with your feelings, and don’t be afraid of getting some outside perspective from friends, family, or a counselor. Trust your gut, and you’ve got this!
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