Her Husband Put In Zero Effort When Her Family Visited Last Spring, So She’s Refusing To Be A Good Host Now That Her In-Laws Are Coming And Basically Said Her Husband Was On His Own
This 33-year-old woman is currently married, and right now, she and her 36-year-old husband live far away from their families in a different country. So, they only get to visit their relatives once a year.
However, they recently just purchased a house of their own, and, given their newfound space, they decided it was time their families visited them instead.
Her family made the trek first and stayed at their home last spring. But, to her disappointment, her husband wasn’t very present during their visit.
For instance, every single morning, she woke up at the crack of dawn to cook breakfast for everybody. Meanwhile, her husband slept in until noon every day.
“And I took time off work to take them to the city and do touristy stuff; my husband went to work every day after waking up late and returned home close to midnight,” she recalled.
To be clear, her husband didn’t have to work those hours, either. Rather, he actually has an extremely flexible work schedule and could have chosen what days and hours he wanted to work.
“But he decided his time was better spent in the office than with my family,” she said.
Now, that was months ago, and in just one week, her husband’s family will now be visiting their new house. Yet, given how her husband treated her own family in the spring, she’s not inclined to put in any effort for her in-laws.
“I told my husband he can expect the same amount of effort and respect that he put into my family’s visit: zero,” she revealed.
Iona – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
This made her husband pretty angry, too, since he expected her to wake up early, cook breakfast for his family, and entertain his relatives while he went off to work again.
Quite frankly, though, she didn’t care about his expectations and put her foot down. She claimed that she wasn’t going to do any of those things for his family because he didn’t even care to wake up at a reasonable hour while her parents were in town.
“I also told him I wasn’t going to take time off from work, plan any ‘fun’ activities, and that he can make or purchase breakfast for them,” she vented.
This pushed her husband to accuse her of being both ungrateful and inconsiderate. He also stated that she “better” be a good host to his family like she was for her own.
So, with her in-law’s visit getting closer by the day, she’s now been left wondering if not wanting to host them at all is justified or makes her a jerk.
How would you feel if your husband acted like that while your family was in town? Does he deserve to have her host his family now?
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