Her Sister Texted Her A Photo Of Her Engagement Ring Just To Make Her Feel Bad That Her Own Boyfriend Hasn’t Proposed After 12 Years
A little while back, this 35-year-old woman made the tough decision to cut contact with all of her siblings.
She already removed her mom from her life three years ago, and she was raised in an incredibly sad home.
Her family was poor and mean to her, so she developed intense fears and anxieties. Her dad was physically abusive, and her mom emotionally and verbally abused her because she’s the spitting image of her dad.
She’s not surprised she struggled for years with anger and rage due to her terrible childhood. When she was 16, she was able to escape, but she was all alone with no support from anyone.
She was left to grow up quickly and figure it out from that moment forward. Though, she grappled with cutting off her mom for years simply because she’s her mom.
But after wanting desperately to find peace in her life, she made the move to no longer speak to her.
Her mom is manipulative and narcissistic, and she wasn’t shocked that her mom turned her brother and sister against her.
They never were close, to begin with, but she still always showed up for her siblings. She allowed them to move into her home temporarily, supported them through breakups and birthdays, and truly did anything she could.
In return, they’ve never done anything similar for her. Two months ago, she became a doctor, and neither her sister nor brother offered up their congratulations for such an enormous milestone.
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That was what made her realize it was time to cut them out, too, just like how she handled things with her mom.
She even went so far as to block her siblings on social media so she could finally take a break from them.
Now, she has been with her boyfriend for 12 years and has been pushing him to get married. She’s questioned her boyfriend about engagement rings, as well as what kind of a timeline he has in mind for having a wedding.
She’s been talking about taking the next steps for years, and her boyfriend hasn’t made any moves.
“It has become a rather sore spot for me,” she admitted. “Some days I feel like “Okay, all things in due time” and other times I feel like if they wanted to propose they would… and they haven’t.”
“I’ve felt hurt, worthless, sad, not good enough and all the other bad feelings associated with wanting something with your partner they do not seem to actually want despite asserting otherwise. It’s hard not to get your own delicate perception of self-worth intertwined with the rejection of not even being asked after such a long period of time.”
“I’m almost starting to feel cheated of my youth by a person who doesn’t actually want to marry me… He came from a great family with parents who are still madly in love and still married, so I’m not sure if that plays any role in it.. like, does he think that I’m not good enough?”
Her sister is well aware of how sensitive a subject this is for her, even though they’re no longer on speaking terms.
Recently, her sister sent her a text message of her engagement ring, and she didn’t send a caption along with it: it was just the photo.
Her sister has only been dating her boyfriend for two years, and this guy popped the question to her.
Her sister knows how hurt she is that her own boyfriend hasn’t proposed to her after over a decade together.
“Her texting me a photo feels like a deliberate attempt to hurt my feelings – especially since there was no additional text message – just a photo,” she said.
She thinks her sister intentionally sent her the photo in order to make her feel bad, and it’s working.
She feels lower than low. She feels sad, silly, pathetic, alone, and deeply hurt.
What advice do you have for her?
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