How To Know If It’s Just A Summer Fling Or If Your Relationship Could Be The Real Thing
Now that July has come to a close, many of you may have entered a bit of a summer fling. Perhaps you went on a casual summer date that turned into six dates or reconnected with an old flame who’s in town for the season. Either way, summer flings can be fun and a way to make memories, but they can also take a certain turn.
Many people get confused about their summer flings because, after everything they went through with them, they begin to wonder if an actual committed and romantic relationship is happening.
Trust me, I’ve been there, wondering if my summer fling was “the real thing” and trying to figure out what my next move would be.
Here are some signs to look out for to help you figure out if your summer fling may be turning into something more.
You’ve developed a deep emotional connection.
Most people who have had summer flings can agree that they usually revolve around having fun more than getting to know someone on a deeper level.
If your casual summer dates have suddenly transitioned into late nights with deep conversations, and you find yourself and your fling becoming more vulnerable, you may be entering more serious territory.
You start talking about the future.
When you’re in a summer fling with someone, and it’s truly a lighthearted situation, when you talk about the future, you usually talk about your post-summer plans that don’t involve each other.
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But if you talk about the future and mention wanting to see each other, visit each other, travel together, etc., then it’s a sign that you don’t just want your relationship to end in the summertime.
You start hanging out alone more than you do in groups.
A lot of people meet their summer flings through their friend groups or bring them around friends for fun going out activities.
But if you and your date prefer to spend time one-on-one versus in a group, then maybe you want to take things a step further.
They post you on social media.
If your summer fling has been sharing pictures or videos of you on their Instagram story or, better yet, included you in official posts, then it’s a clear indicator that they don’t just want to write you off.
For some people, being included on their social media is a big deal, and if they want their friends and followers to know who you are, they may want to keep you in their lives seriously.
If you have been casually dating someone this summer and have seen all of these indicators at one point or another, it may be time to have a conversation about what you plan on doing when the summer is over.
It’s better to ask and figure it out than never know.
Don’t be afraid to take risks regarding summer love – even if you’re unable to enter a committed relationship, you’ll still have a good experience to look back on.
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