She Agreed To An Open Marriage With Specific Rules, So Ever Since Finding Out Her Husband Has Been Crossing Those Boundaries, She Wants To Split Up
This 32-year-old woman and her husband Ryan, who’s 34, have been married for seven years now, and throughout their marriage, they’ve always been committed to each other.
Yet, more recently, her husband actually admitted that he was interested in trying out an open marriage – and she wasn’t immediately put off by the idea.
Rather, she and Ryan had numerous discussions about what an open marriage would look like for them, and they ultimately agreed on some very clear rules and boundaries.
First, they were not allowed to form any serious emotional connections with other partners. Secondly, they could not sleep with anyone else without being completely transparent about it.
Even with these rules, she was still a bit nervous about having an open relationship.
“But I agreed to give it a try because I wanted to support Ryan and keep our relationship strong,” she recalled.
Unfortunately, though, her husband still seemingly took advantage of their arrangement – because she found out how, over the last few months, Ryan has been disregarding their rules and boundaries.
Apparently, he’s been having both emotional and physical relationships with others behind her back, which violates their full transparency rule.
“I found out about these violations through mutual friends and social media, not from Ryan himself,” she revealed.
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After learning the truth, she also confronted Ryan, and he came clean about breaking the rules. Yet, he didn’t actually apologize or think it was a huge deal since, according to him, he was still committed to her and their relationship.
Instead, Ryan claimed to think that she needed to be more accepting of the current state of their open marriage – saying it was the “natural evolution” of their relationship.
Quite frankly, his reaction has left her feeling devastated and totally betrayed, too.
“I agreed to an open marriage with specific rules in place, and Ryan’s actions have breached those boundaries. I don’t feel comfortable with how things have turned out, and I don’t think I can continue in a marriage where trust has been so severely damaged,” she vented.
That’s why she’s now considering ending their marriage once and for all since, in her eyes, there’s no way to reconcile the situation.
Ryan, on the other hand, just believes she’s overreacting and not giving their open marriage a “fair chance.” On top of that, he said that if she really loved him, then she’d accept the changes in their marriage and “work through them.”
So, with her and Ryan on completely different pages, she doesn’t know if wanting to end their marriage over this is reasonable or actually an overreaction.
How would you feel if your partner violated your trust and boundaries like that? Do you think their marriage is over?
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