If your dad went on to have more kids with his second wife, couldn’t afford them, and turned to you to financially bail them all out, what would you do?
This 19-year-old man’s mom sadly passed away back when he was 13. As soon as she died, his dad spiraled into drinking heavily for a whole year.
His dad also confessed that he wouldn’t let his mom have a second child and was happy to only have him, because otherwise, he would have ended up as a single dad to two kids instead of one.
“He admitted my mom had been heartbroken and they had almost divorced a few times because he wouldn’t even listen to her about it, and he said no,” he explained.
“The way he talked about the situation and her [infuriated me] at the time because he was basically laughing at her for expecting them to have actual conversations about it.”
Several years later, his dad cleaned up his act and got married again. His dad’s new wife really wanted to have children of her own, so his dad said yes to starting a family with her.
His dad lost his job because of all the drinking he did, and his new job paid him significantly less money. Then, his dad’s new wife quit working as soon as they tied the knot.
His dad and his new wife had four kids in a row (the youngest was born earlier this year), which really hurt them financially, as they couldn’t even afford to have one child.
“I wanted no part of his second family. Honestly, the fact that he had more kids with another woman after he talked about my mom like he did made me disgusted with him as a person,” he added.
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“Because he was not in a better financial position for these kids. But he’s still my dad, so even though I distanced myself from him and moved out as fast as humanly possible, I hoped to stay in touch.”
“But ever since I moved out and even more since his last kid was born, he has been begging me to move back in and help support his family (because I don’t consider them mine at all). I told him no, but he keeps asking, and I’m so tired of it. So I’m looking for advice before pulling the plug.”
His dad’s wife can easily go back to work and help them financially, so he should tell his dad to make that happen instead of pleading with him for money.
And right after he does that, he should block his dad from being able to contact him. It’s his dad’s responsibility to support all of these kids, not his.
Do you think he would be wrong to cut contact with his dad for expecting him to help him pay for his kids?
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