Getting into disagreements with your spouse is totally normal. Fights are just bound to happen, but what would you do if you found yourself arguing nonstop with your partner about one particular topic more times than you could count on two hands?
This 30-year-old man just got divorced from his 28-year-old wife, even though he loved her with all of his heart. They were together for two years, and of course, they had normal arguments as every couple does, but there was one subject that they kept getting quite heated over: their male coworker.
He and his wife have jobs at the same place, and while he’s been there for seven years, she’s only been there for three. They have one male coworker whom he really dislikes.
It’s not that he has a direct issue with this man; it’s just that he’s got a reputation as a Casanova. When his wife first began working at their company, this man said some very inappropriate things about her in front of some of their friends.
This happened outside of office hours when they were all hanging out, and he was there to witness it.
“The thing is, my wife and I weren’t together back then. So he was just telling us about his dirty dreams about a coworker. Man talk, I guess,” he explained.
After he got married to his wife, she got closer to this coworker. They would talk and laugh a lot around the office. There were times his wife would spend an entire hour speaking to this man.
This really irritated him, as he knew he wasn’t a good guy, and he never forgot what he said about his wife. Those words still really riled him up, even though what was said went down before he was even with his wife.
He informed his wife that he felt their coworker wasn’t trustworthy, and he did not want her spending any of her time beside him. He said that he didn’t mind if she was required to talk to their coworker about something in particular, so long as it was related strictly to work.
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His wife ignored him and kept up her friendliness with their coworker. He spoke to his wife countless times about how upset he was. He even filled her in on why he didn’t want her talking to this man.
“She agreed at first this time, but a week later, they started again. Sometimes we would go to dinner after work with everyone from work. She would be talking only with him all the time during dinner,” he added.
“Fast forward, we had 17 fights about this. Most of the time, she promised not to talk to him and did again with a stupid explanation. In our last fight, I was ready to divorce. Families were involved as well. We even went to a lawyer.”
“Well, in the end again, she made promises, she said she understands me, she said she won’t talk to him even a sec, she said she would even avoid work-related talk if she can. I said fine, one last time.”
Guess what he came across last week? His wife was sitting with their coworker and having a chat with him. He listened in on the conversation for 10 minutes, which was all about random things.
One day later, he caught his wife joking and laughing with their coworker on their lunch break, and that was the final straw for him.
“After all this, after 17 fights about this guy, after almost getting divorced…how? How can she risk it for a 10-minute talk? Is my word as a husband, is my concern as a husband, worthless?” he wondered.
“So I told her I wanted to divorce and was done with it the very next day. Now I have moved out of the house and am staying with a friend. End of story.”
Oh, and he did clarify to his wife that her actions made him feel worthless prior to asking for the divorce, and she just accepted it and said she knew that this would happen one day.
I think you really cannot be married to someone who repeatedly disrespects your feelings. It’s insane to me that they got into 17 fights about their male coworker, and his wife promised to stop speaking to this man, only to go right back to doing exactly what he asked her not to and expressed discomfort over.
I wonder if his wife caught feelings for their coworker. I can’t see why else she would have risked their marriage like that unless she was looking for an out so she could get together with this man.
In a marriage, your spouse should always value and prioritize you and your feelings, and if they aren’t willing to do that, you can’t be with them. It’s as simple as that.
What do you think about that?
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