She Let Her Mom Know That Her Stepdad Wrecked Her Teen Years, And Now Her Mom Isn’t Speaking To Her
There’s a certain heartbreak in realizing that the person who was supposed to protect your childhood ended up defending the thing that stole it.
For years, she bit her tongue while her stepdad’s rigid rules and constant judgment turned her home into a place where she never felt at ease.
Now that she’s old enough to put it into words, she told her mom the truth. But instead of reflection or regret, all she got was silence, and the weight of wondering if saying how you really feel makes you the villain.
If your parent can’t see that the spouse they picked made your life a living nightmare, are they really that good of a parent?
This girl is in the early part of her 20s, and back when she was 13, her mom basically had a shotgun wedding.
Her mom knew her stepdad for a very brief amount of time before she jumped into marrying the guy. Back then, she was trying to cope with being in middle school (an ugly time for all of us), and then she had to manage a completely different dynamic in her family with her stepdad in the picture. It was a lot for her to deal with at the time.
“Spoiler: it did not go smoothly. My stepdad wasn’t abusive or anything, but he was super strict, like weirdly obsessed with ‘respect’ and chores,” she explained.
“He once grounded me for a week because I rolled my eyes. I couldn’t do anything without his approval. He even made weird comments about what I wore, not in a gross way, just like ‘young ladies shouldn’t dress like that,’ even if it was literally a hoodie.”
“I tried talking to my mom so many times, but she always defended him with the classic, ‘he just wants what’s best for you.’ Meanwhile, I felt like a guest in my own house for years.”
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A week ago, it all leaked out when she let her mom know the truth: her mom’s marriage wrecked her teen years.
She wasn’t able to go to school dances or have sleepovers. She had to walk on eggshells constantly. Well, her mom wasn’t happy about her dose of honesty.
Her mom instantly fell silent, and she pretty much hasn’t spoken to her since then. While she does feel terrible for obviously hurting her mom’s feelings, she also doesn’t in a way, because she finally had the chance to speak her truth after bottling it up for years.
“Because it was my reality. So yeah. [Am I the jerk] for finally saying it out loud?”
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