Absolutely everyone makes mistakes when they’re young, and the hope is that we learn from these missteps to grow into better human beings as adults.
So what if you started dating someone who was a former bully, and instead of feeling remorse over their actions, they just laughed at their own bad behavior?
That’s the same situation this 21-year-old woman recently found herself in. For some background, she’s in college and met a 20-year-old guy a few months ago.
And from the start, they immediately clicked. She thought he was super charming and easy to talk to, which is why they quickly became friends.
“He’s really sweet, we study the same thing, and we have similar schedules, so we usually walk together to our bus stop,” she detailed.
Eventually, the guy also admitted to having feelings for her. That’s when they agreed to get to know each other on a deeper level, and she believed everything was going great until last week.
One day, he apparently started discussing all the “pranks” he used to pull on his peers during elementary school. Then, he confessed to continuing the pranks until he graduated from high school only three years ago.
The guy supposedly used to “rank” girls and liked watching their reactions, which he found funny. Other pranks ranged from harmless gags to actually “intoxicating” one of his classmates with rotten food.
What unsettled her the most, though, was the guy’s demeanor while he talked about his past. He actually just laughed as he recalled these terrible stories, and all she could do was stare at him.
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“I even told him that it was considered bullying because it was always to the same female classmates, but he laughed it off so casually that I really wanted to walk away,” she revealed.
Now, after seeing that he clearly has no remorse, she’s unsure whether she wants to continue getting to know him. After all, she’s not even interested in potentially dating him anymore.
Nonetheless, if she cuts things off now, their encounters might become pretty awkward in the future.
“I’ll see him again until my semester ends, and we share routes on our way back home,” she vented.
This reality has pushed her to wonder whether she’s overreacting or if refusing to date the guy after finding out he was a school bully is justified.
Would you also find it off-putting if an ex-bully felt their behavior was humorous, not hurtful? Is she dodging a bullet?
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By Katharina Buczek
Katharina Buczek graduated from Stony Brook University with a degree in Journalism and a minor in Digital Arts. Specializing in... More about Katharina Buczek
