Many women dream of marrying a hardworking man who’s committed to his career and can provide a stable life. This 30-year-old woman was previously in the same boat, and it was her 46-year-old husband’s ambition and drive that made her fall in love with him in the first place.
“He is tall, old school, clean cut, fit, eats healthy, and is very self-disciplined. I was attracted to his confidence and masculine vibe since I met him for the very first time,” she recalled.
Back then, they were both working for the same company, but in different departments. She was four years into her job when they initially met in front of an elevator, and her husband didn’t even respond after she said “hello,” even though she’s positive he heard the greeting.
At the time, he was a high-up manager, and she’d heard some stories about him from her own bosses.
“All my bosses were avoiding him because he was very harsh and uptight, and as they were all women in their late twenties or early thirties, he didn’t even take them seriously, and they feared him,” she detailed.
Regardless, they eventually began dating, and she realized her now-husband was extremely smart. He’s also held managerial positions at work for the last 15 years.
They wound up tying the knot three years ago, and since then, they’ve welcomed two kids into the world: a 2-year-old son and a daughter, who’s only a few months old.
Her life has generally been good as well. She’s currently staying at home with her newborn and enjoying her own hobbies and friends. However, the main problem is her husband, who doesn’t seem to be satisfied with where they are right now.
Rather, she thinks that he always wants “more and more.” For instance, he already wants to have more children, despite the fact that she just gave birth to their second. Plus, he’s always striving to take on more responsibility at work.
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After she left her job at their company, he supposedly climbed “at least” three more ladders and ultimately became a general manager of their whole region. This means her husband is in charge of supervising 600 employees and 50 internal processes.
Yet, even after all that success, he remains a very angry person. She clarified that her husband is never aggressive or violent toward her. Instead, they just barely see each other, and when they do, he’s constantly tired or irritated.
She admits that she still loves her husband a lot, and she always wanted to be with a man like him. Sadly, she lost her father young and was forced to provide for her family on her own, starting at the age of 15.
“I know it sounds shallow, but I wanted a strong man; a man who can allow me to rest and take care of me, even though I am not a kept woman,” she explained.
So, she cooks daily for her husband, irons his business clothes every single morning, and tries to “look good for him” all the time. Nonetheless, their relationship continues to suffer due to his job and its impact on his attitude.
She claims that whenever her husband arrives home, he just eats dinner and vents about everyone he has to deal with at work. Then, as she washes the dishes, he takes a shower and goes straight to bed.
They haven’t been showing each other affection, either, and she’s at a loss over how to improve their marriage and make her husband “see” her again.
Things have gotten so bad that she’s even wondered whether her husband is cheating on her, and that’s why they barely sleep together anymore. Or if he’s just so tired and worn out from his career.
“He now also has an assistant, and she is a woman in her thirties, a married mother. But he didn’t pick her himself, and in those years I worked at that company, I never heard rumors he might be a womanizer,” she noted.
While she’s not certain there’s any cheating going on, the fact still remains that her relationship with her husband is suffering. And she believes his ambitious and “power-hungry” nature is to blame.
Could you be satisfied in a marriage where your spouse provided financial stability but there was no emotional or physical connection? Do you think there’s any way they could improve their relationship together? Or does it sound like they’re incompatible on a deeper level?
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By Katharina Buczek
Katharina Buczek graduated from Stony Brook University with a degree in Journalism and a minor in Digital Arts. Specializing in... More about Katharina Buczek
