Marriage is meant to be a partnership, not a test. So how would you feel if your spouse decided to test you in a way that actually risked your health? Would you want to remain in the marriage, or would you be willing to walk away and call it quits?
This 39-year-old woman has spent the last 18 years married to her 39-year-old husband. She gave birth to their daughter when they were in their early 20s, and so she dropped out of college, since daycare was just too expensive to manage.
She then became financially dependent upon her husband, and she admits she hates that she let herself get that way. But actually, that’s not the biggest issue in her life.
Recently, her husband cooked dinner for her, but he lied about what he served that night! He told her that he made a chuck roast, when actually, he cooked venison (and he knows she hates this with a passion).
“He lied about what he was cooking just to see if I actually disliked it or if I could even tell the difference. Spoiler alert: I can and did,” she explained.
“I took one bite and immediately removed it from my plate. It’s gross to me. I don’t like the taste or the texture, which could be my autism sensitivities. He has known this our entire 18-year marriage.”
“Some other background information: I currently have severe anxiety around food due to recent food reactions I’ve had. I’ve started having reactions to foods I’ve been able to eat my entire life, and even have to carry an EpiPen now, and am on several medications.”
Her doctors don’t understand why she began having these strange reactions, so in the meantime, while they work to get to the bottom of what’s going on with her, she has to be extremely cautious with what she eats.
Her husband is aware of everything she’s going through, which makes her even more upset that he thought it would be fine to add something new to her plate without asking or checking first.
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She very well could have had a bad reaction and landed in the Emergency Room all over again because he lied to her about the venison she ate.
“And I completely lost it when he looked at me with this smug expression and asked, ‘Could you even tell the difference?’ Well, obviously, considering I stopped eating it!!” she exclaimed.
“This is nowhere close to the first situation in which I have been made to feel like my preferences and even my health don’t matter.”
“…In my 20s, I had to have biopsies of my stomach after my brother was diagnosed with stomach cancer to make sure I didn’t. I was terrified and emotional, and my husband told me I was too needy and wouldn’t make it without him. Then he took a job and moved 4 hours away, leaving me to deal with all that alone with a 3-year-old.”
Anyway, she wants to divorce her husband after he lied to her and let her eat venison. She doesn’t think she’s being too dramatic here, but she’s curious what you think.
I believe her problem here runs far deeper than the venison, but it is the last straw. Her husband has consistently shown her that he does not respect her or care about her well-being.
That’s alarming and sad, and I would walk away from a jerk like him, too.
What advice do you have for her?
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By Bre Avery Zacharski
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