It’s so sad to me when people have kids and then treat them like garbage or blame them for mistakes that they made. But some parents do go around treating their kids like a walking reminder of everything they lost, and then act shocked when that kid stops volunteering to save the day.
He’s unfortunately spent the majority of his life being blamed for his mom and dad’s choices, and now suddenly he’s supposed to play Santa.
This 17-year-old guy has two siblings: a 12-year-old brother named Arlo and a 7-year-old sister named Asha. Ever since he can remember, his parents have been telling him he destroyed their college experience because they got pregnant with him and had to drop out and face adult responsibilities.
The first time he can recall feeling the restment from his mom and dad was back when his mom was quite pregnant with Arlo, so he was really only five.
“I always got less love, attention, and money spent on me because of that. Arlo and Asha were in activities from really little ages. I never did anything outside of school except for working,” he explained.
“My jobs were babysitting from the age of 12 and then getting a part-time job at 16 at a local store. But I never got to learn an instrument, or play a sport, or join any kids’ clubs like my siblings.”
“Every Christmas and birthday, I got some clothes as gifts, while my siblings got toys and video games. When I started high school, the clothes even stopped, and I wouldn’t get anything. They never made excuses for it when I asked. They probably expected me to know it’s because they resented me.”
He doesn’t have a great relationship with Asha and Arlo because of how differently he’s been treated from them, and his siblings don’t like him either.
He is aware that Asha and Arlo can’t be held accountable for the actions of his parents, but nonetheless, he can’t wait to move out as soon as he turns 18 and leave them all behind, including Asha and Arlo.
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Earlier in the year, his dad lost the job he had, and the new position he picked up pays less than the old one. Right after that, his mom lost her job too and became disabled.
His parents had to sell some of their belongings in order to have enough money to pay for groceries and bills. Consequently, Asha and Arlo didn’t receive remarkable gifts for their birthday.
As of today, his parents haven’t even purchased Christmas presents for his siblings since they’re that short on cash.
“My parents told me they wouldn’t be able to afford anything and that they know I have money somewhere and I should make sure they have an amazing Christmas this year,” he added.
“They said my siblings deserve that after everything that’s happened this year. I asked my parents who’ll make sure I have an amazing Christmas if all my money goes on my siblings.”
“I asked them when I ever got to have an amazing Christmas. They told me it wasn’t about me, and I know the reason they didn’t treat me the same, and that it shouldn’t be a reason for my siblings to lose out all year.”
He responded that his mom and dad should find someone who feels like helping them because it’s not him, and he’s not sacrificing his hard-earned money for any of them.
He reminded them that in just a couple of months, he will be moving out, and then they can pretend he never existed since he wrecked their lives.
His parents snapped they he can’t be angry with them if he wants to treat his siblings the same way they treated them. He’s left wondering if he’s a jerk for not wanting to give his parents Christmas money for his siblings.
How disgusting that his parents treat him so terribly. I think he’s right not to want to share his money with them, because he needs it to move out and leave them far behind.
His siblings are not his problem or responsibility; it’s on his parents to provide for them and purchase Christmas gifts, not him!
What do you think?
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By Bre Avery Zacharski
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