If you’re not your spouse’s first choice and they just can’t decide if they want to be with you or their affair partner, should you stick with them while they figure it out or file for divorce?
This poor woman actually went out and hired a private investigator to help her gather up the evidence she needed to prove that her husband’s been cheating on her.
Yesterday, she was given a mountain of proof, and apparently, her husband started cheating when she was 36 weeks pregnant with their baby.
Her husband slept with this other woman multiple times, and she’s trying to sort through all of the overwhelming emotions that she’s been experiencing since getting the bad news.
Three months ago, she gave birth to their firstborn child; she’s been married to her husband for seven years, and they’ve been together for 13 years in total.
As for her husband’s affair partner?
“The other girl is married with no kids and knew I was pregnant. Clearly, as [she has never] been a mom, she has NO idea what it means to bring a child into the world with someone,” she explained.
“My husband says he has feelings for her but doesn’t know if he wants to be with her or us, to which I’m devastated. We’ve been together since I was 17. I feel like my world is just shattered, and I don’t know what to do from here.”
“There’s some very small part that loves him so deeply that if he chose to make it work, it would be a long ride to recovery, but then I’m also like [forget] that. You’ve been lying to me and [sleeping] with another woman for 5 months, and you’re only feeling guilt because you got caught.”
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She can’t wrap her brain around the fact that her husband has been spending an hour every night with his affair partner instead of coming home to be with her, his literal wife, and their newborn. That’s soul-crushing to her.
Also, two evenings ago, she and her husband got into an enormous argument, and then he went to meet up with his affair partner and share all of the details of that fight with the other woman!
She hates that they’re out there confiding in each other in addition to being physical. Surprisingly, her husband has been honest with her about all of the sordid specifics of his affair, but she knows the other woman is lying through her teeth to her husband, because she’s been communicating with the guy.
I’m sorry, but why is she waiting around for her husband to make a choice between her or his affair partner? I would be packing his bags, kicking him out, and filing for divorce already!
It’s bad enough he wasn’t faithful, but the audacity of this man to say he just can’t decide is unforgivable. Evidently, he has zero respect for her and their marriage, and it’s not worth hanging in there to see if he will pick her.
He should be groveling on his hands and knees, begging for another chance, not acting like he is having such a hard time figuring out which woman he wants to be with.
What advice do you have for her?
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