Therapy is supposed to help you, not give you a roadmap for harming other people. It’s a massive red flag when someone spends their adulthood hunting down someone they knew back in middle school just to settle the score, but that’s exactly what her fiancée did.
She’s so upset and repulsed that she’s currently considering calling off her engagement, but it seems she’s going to have to watch her back in the process.
This woman is in her 30s, and her fiancée, Ella, is too. She and Ella have been with one another for the last five years, and they definitely had difficult childhoods because they liked girls, not boys.
Ella’s experience was harder than hers, and Ella identifies as ‘butch.’ A year ago, Ella began therapy, and it’s actually one of the worst things she’s witnessed.
“Her therapist did nothing but tell her she was right [and] everyone was wrong. Ella brought up being teased in school, and her therapist thought that was the root cause of her anxiety,” she explained.
“Ella started talking about the girl (Bev) who she decided was the cause of her mental illness. Bev apparently used to call her a pig for belching in the lunchroom (in middle school). My fiancée said she used to use ‘gross out humor’ and her male friends encouraged it.”
“I told her it sounded like they were the bullies, but she shut it down. Her middle school years were rough because she was the ‘gross and dirty girl’ nobody liked. What she went through was awful, but she decided Bev, a girl she hadn’t seen in decades, was the cause, just because she was the first to call her out.”
Ella is into people pleasing, and she has ADHD, so she can understand why Ella acted in a disgusting way to impress her male friends without realizing how ugly that was.
Several months ago, Ella addressed her desire to call Bev out for the role she played in her childhood trauma. She told Ella that it was insane, but Ella’s therapist fully supported her.
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Ella ended up listening to her therapist, not her. She then discovered that Ella hunted down Bev on Facebook and had begun stalking her.
Ella called up Bev’s place of work to let them know they had hired a psycho. She then called the police to have them investigate Bev for abusing her kids.
Ella even went so far as to make unhinged posts about Bev on social media under a fake account and left Google reviews for Bev’s company with her name clearly on them.
Bev did end up pressing charges against Ella, but only after she literally showed up at her office and Bev caught it all on camera.
Well, Ella has since gotten arrested and charged with harassment, but she’s proud of what she did to Bev. Ella has continued to post stories about her revenge on forums where younger people are supporting her.
“Ella’s online behavior became public, and she lost her job because of it, since she worked with kids. She insists that her behavior is due to her PTSD, [which] her joke of a therapist suggested she has,” she added.
“I can’t take this, and I left to live with my family. I never imagined her doing anything like this. She is obsessed with fake ‘pro-revenge stories’ and seems to think shes the hero in this. I reached out to Bev to apologize, and the woman begged to be left alone.”
“She apologized for calling her gross in the 6th grade, and I said she doesn’t deserve it. Ella is mad because I told her I probably would have acted the same at that age when some kid was belching and making fart noises all day.”
She doesn’t see how she can keep being with Ella, and she’s ready to call off their engagement and move out.
If Ella was so excited to get revenge on a girl who made some comments to her back in the sixth grade, I’m worried about what Ella will do to her when she leaves.
I think she should move out and leave a breakup note behind while Ella isn’t at home, to avoid this being uglier than it has to be and to keep herself safe.
Do you think she should leave Ella over what she did to Bev?
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By Bre Avery Zacharski
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