Getting to name your baby with your partner is such a touching and important moment as a couple, and both parents really should be on the same page with what to call their child.
But what would you do if your spouse promised their child that they have free rein to name your unborn baby, without getting your permission first?
This woman and her husband are both in their 30s, and her husband has a daughter from a previous relationship who is 11. Two years ago, her stepdaughter’s mom passed away, and then her stepdaughter came to live with her and her husband.
Her stepdaughter struggled a lot losing her mom, but has managed to improve day by day. She’s currently seven months pregnant with a little girl, and she’s been picking out the best name for her baby.
She did let her stepdaughter know that she could suggest names, but ultimately, it’s up to her and her husband to have the final say.
Last week, she asked her stepdaughter what name she had selected, and she said the baby should be named after her mom.
“I told her that I feel she should use that for her kid when she gets older, and it’ll be more sacred then. She basically told me that her dad had already said that was one of our top picks for a name, and that she wants our baby to have her mom’s name,” she said.
She brought up again that her stepdaughter should reserve that name for her future daughter, and redirected her to suggest alternative options.
Her stepdaughter wanted to know if her mom’s name could be the baby’s middle name, and she said he best friend already wanted that for a middle name, so she couldn’t copy her.
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Her stepdaughter felt hurt that she wasn’t paying attention to her input. Later on, she questioned her husband about why he would tell his daughter her mom’s name is their top baby name.
She said she had no interest in naming her daughter after a woman who hated her for breathing. Her husband replied that he wanted to actually name their daughter after his ex, since it would create an instant bond between the girls.
“I explained to him that I don’t want that name for our child, and that’s a name I’m not budging on. He then got upset and said if we don’t name our kid that his daughter will be upset and angry, and she may not like the baby,” she continued.
“I told him if she doesn’t, it’s because he gave her false hope for no reason. We went back and forth for a while and [got] nowhere. I personally don’t feel like [a jerk], but I also feel bad for my stepdaughter as I know she wants more things tied to her mom.”
I think her husband is awful for promising his kid that her baby name is their top pick without running it past her first. He put her in an impossible situation; if she doesn’t agree to name the baby what his kid wants, he’s setting her up to be resented.
If I were her, I would be rethinking the marriage, because her husband is not a team player, and he’s willing to throw her under the bus to make his daughter happy. Not cool.
Do you think she’s mean for refusing to name her kid after her stepdaughter’s mom?
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