If you had a kid with someone who wouldn’t ever be considered a parent of the year, would you help them leave their horrible spouse? Or would you tell them too bad, they can find a way out of that mess they got into on their own?
This man has a 16-year-old son with his ex-girlfriend from high school. They never did end up getting married, but regardless, he’s been a big part of his son’s life.
Seven years ago, his ex got married to a terrible man who doesn’t get along with his son. This man has two kids from a prior relationship, and his ex went on to have two more kids with him. His ex is a stay-at-home mom to all the kids.
Now, four years ago, he was awarded full custody of his son after a battle with his ex that went on for years. He and his son live an hour away from where his ex does, and his son has hardly heard from her since moving in with him.
Last year, his son didn’t hear from his mom once.
“About two weeks ago, I got a call from my ex, and she was crying. She told me that she was ready to leave her husband. I asked why she has decided to leave him,” he explained.
“She told me because she discovered that he is cheating, she confronted him and told him he needs to stop, but he laughed at her and told her he will not stop. He told [her] she is free to leave, but she will leave with little because of their prenup.”
“She wants to stay at my house (I have a rather large home) with her two younger kids until she can figure things out, get a lawyer, and get her own place. I do not want her to stay. I talked to my son about it, and he does not want her here. I called her back and told her ‘no.'”
His ex then phoned his sister, who, in turn, reached out to him to berate him for not helping his ex. His sister argued that he could allow his ex to live in the garage, since he has a two-bedroom apartment in there that he’s not using.
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He responded that he doesn’t want his ex there, and his son is on the same page. His son is hurt that his ex failed to speak to him for an entire year, and his son wants his home to be peaceful. It won’t be if he takes in his ex.
He’s not about to do anything to ruin the stability his son has, so he let his sister know that if she is so upset by the situation, his ex could move in with her.
“My sister said that is impractical (my sister lives a couple of states away). I am not letting my ex move in. My sister suggested I could give her money for her own place because I can afford it,” he continued.
“I told my sister she is free to give her money. But I am not giving my hard-earned money to a person [who] owes me more than $10,000 in unpaid child support.”
His ex has been a bad mom to his son and problematic to him, so no, he shouldn’t help her. I mean, she doesn’t deserve it. You reap what you sow.
What advice do you have for him?
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