If you found out that your spouse was taking someone else out on dates and cheating on you while you were busy planning your wedding, what would you do?
This 29-year-old woman has been with her 30-year-old husband for 14 years, and they had a marriage ceremony with just the two of them in 2024. Their actual wedding she has been planning to happen at the end of this year.
She says their marriage is pretty wonderful, but there is one big problem: their romantic connection is lacking, and a lot of it has to do with the pain she’s been experiencing.
She’s still tried to do other things with her husband, like cuddling and kissing him, and she has promised to work through the rough patch with him.
Now that we’ve set the stage for their relationship, she recently got a message from another woman that shook her to her core and proved that, as she’s been planning their wedding, her husband has been cheating on her.
“Long story short, she provided plenty of evidence she knew my husband, and he approached her at a work conference [at the] end of 2024,” she explained.
“They went on a couple of dates [at the] end of 2024, spoke on the phone, and then stopped speaking. They then reconnected in May 2025, spoke on the phone, went on 1 date again, and stopped speaking.”
“She shared messages, proof of knowing a lot about him, and she had no idea he wasn’t single. There was no intimacy as far as I’m aware, as she said she liked his company but wasn’t attracted to him. I feel totally blindsided. I genuinely had no idea.”
She and her husband both have jobs working from home, so they spend an unusual amount of time together. She did go on a couple of girls’ trips and went home for Christmas at the end of 2024, so her husband did have plenty of time to go on those dates with the other woman.
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She went to her husband with the evidence his affair partner gave him, and he vehemently denied being unfaithful. Two days later, she let her husband know that it didn’t matter that he couldn’t admit to what he did; she knew it had still happened.
Her husband stayed silent, which she thinks further underscored his guilt. She has since asked her husband to leave their house for a week and said they can meet up after that to talk.
“I just have no idea how to move forward. I feel so embarrassed knowing we’ve told friends and family about our wedding, people have booked flights, etc.,” she added.
“I’ve invested 14 years of my life in this man and been there over the most horrendous times for him. I’ve allowed his brother to live with us, and we financially supported his brother (over the time periods he spoke to her), his family [has] visited and stayed for weeks, I’ve been a huge emotional support when his brother got into some legal troubles.”
“2025 was a hard year, and I truly thought we would be looking forward and onwards in 2026 with so many new beginnings, and for this to have come up, I feel so sick and betrayed.”
Her husband did highlight their problems in the bedroom and alluded to that as his reason for cheating. She knows that’s a meaningful part of a relationship, and something they have to work on fixing, but to her, that’s not an excuse to date another woman.
She’s left wondering if she’s foolish to think her husband’s infidelity is something they can overcome. She realizes they both will have to commit to bouncing back from this, but she’s not sure it’s possible.
Since her husband cheated on her two times and isn’t interested in taking accountability for that, I don’t think she should stay married to him.
He doesn’t have any respect for her, so why would she want to sign up for a lifetime with a man like that?
What advice do you have for her?
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