Imagine your mom and dad told you growing up that you were adopted, only to find out that they both lied to your face, and you’re actually the result of your dad’s affair. How would you feel? Would you never be able to trust your parents again?
As this 16-year-old girl has gotten older, her mom and dad told her this amazing story about how she was brought into their family and their hearts.
“I was this precious baby who was born in China, and I was adopted by a lovely white American family. That they loved me and chose me the moment they saw me,” she explained.
“That love is what mattered, not blood. That it didn’t matter that I didn’t look like them, my race didn’t matter, I was their daughter because of love.”
Well, the tale of how she ended up with her mom and dad is nothing but a lie. Apparently, what she thought was her adopted dad knew her biological mom far too well.
Meaning, yes, she was born to a Chinese woman back in China; that is the only part that turned out to be true. But her adopted dad is not that at all; he’s her biological father.
How can this be, you ask? Well, she is the result of an affair. Her adopted (and biological) dad was unfaithful to her adopted mom, and that’s how she came to be.
“My adopted mom raised the product of her husband’s betrayal. When I found out, my parents tried to spin this. All of [a] sudden, it’s such a great thing to be blood-related to my dad,” she continued.
“Did they not think that if it’s so great that I’m blood-related to my dad, what about the fact that I’m not blood-related to my mom (adopted mom)? ”
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“They’re disappointed that I said I’m disappointed that my adopted father is my biological father. Being blood-related is what [a] lot of adopted kids dream of, but not like this. Am I just weird? Am I the [jerk]?”
She has every right to feel let down because her parents kept a colossal secret from her. Her dad is a liar and a cheater, and while her mom is a liar too, she’s also a saint for loving her so unconditionally, considering she is an affair child.
She should be more appreciative of her mom’s selflessness and the fact that she was able to set aside her hurt and pain to be a good parent to her.
I’m willing to bet her mom, of all people, can relate to her feelings the most, considering what her dad did to her and put her through.
I’m still not saying any of this was right, because it wasn’t. It was extremely selfish and cruel of her parents not to tell her how she came into the world.
What advice do you have for her?
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By Bre Avery Zacharski
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