If your spouse was adamant about naming your unborn baby something very specific, would you assume that means they’re cheating on you?
Two years ago, this 25-year-old man and his 22-year-old wife got married, and she’s currently pregnant with their firstborn. His wife is set to give birth in a month and a half.
Early into the pregnancy, they discussed baby names, and his wife is known for changing her mind a lot. However, he was surprised that she was intent on naming their son Simon.
While yes, there is nothing unusual about that name, like he said, his wife isn’t really one to pick something and stick with it, which he found odd.
One weekend ago, he and his wife were invited to a party with their friends, and his wife’s best friend wanted to know if they were going to use Simon as their baby’s first name or middle name.
This struck him as strange, since he and his wife were in agreement about not telling anyone which baby names they were considering.
He reminded his wife about that, and they were going to wait to pick the name until after their baby arrived. So, he was taken aback that his wife had spoken about names with her best friend.
“I had asked my wife multiple times why she is so set on that name, and she said that she just really likes it. I can tell when she is lying, and that was one of those times,” he explained.
“So I asked her friend’s husband if he [knew] anything about it. He said it’s best we meet up for [a] beer, so we did that yesterday. He told me that ‘Simon’ isn’t just a name for my wife.”
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“It is her old ‘kind of ex’ from when she was 16. My wife has never hidden any relationships from me, so this was unexpected to hear.”
He pressed this man for more information, wanting to know what ‘kind of ex’ even means. This man told him that he should speak to his wife.
Well, he hasn’t done that, and now he’s worried that his wife is cheating on him and naming their child after her affair partner, especially since she has been open about men in her romantic past, and Simon was not among them.
He even went digging through his wife’s entire family tree, hoping her best friend’s husband was incorrect and that Simon was a family name, but he didn’t uncover anything like that.
“I honestly don’t know what to do. I don’t want my child to be named after her side piece or her ex. I know I have to talk to her, but I just don’t know how to start the conversation,” he continued.
“And the fact she has kept this a secret and would not tell me why she likes that name is pushing me to want to divorce her and, as soon as the child is born, test if it’s even mine.”
This is just so upside down to me. Why did the man he went out with refuse to give him more information? Why has he not brought his concerns up to his wife?
I am sure there is a completely logical explanation here, and maybe Simon is someone his wife dated for a hot ten seconds back in high school, but that doesn’t mean she’s cheating now.
The best thing for him to do is to just go to his wife and put his mind at ease.
What advice do you have for him?
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By Bre Avery Zacharski
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