Have you ever had a friend become so superficial and fake that you no longer felt like you could keep up the friendship because of it?
This 32-year-old woman met her 38-year-old friend 8 years ago, and they instantly grew close. She’s an introvert, and her friend shared so many of her interests and hobbies.
Although her friend is an adult, she still lives at home with her mom and dad and is not motivated to ever move out.
“In the last 2 years, she’s become fixated on finding a ‘rich husband’ to fund her lifestyle. She works in admin and earns approximately $75k per year, however [she] ordered fake custom ‘business cards’ that say she’s a business consultant with her own business so she can hand them out to men she meets out,” she explained.
“She recently quit her job after coming into an inheritance, and spent $50k in 7 months on expensive Airbnbs, expensive dinners, and other lifestyle choices in a popular coastal town where influencers are known to frequent.”
“She posted daily about her new lifestyle on social media despite admitting she’s almost spent all her money on cosmetic surgery and Ozempic. I’m all for people doing whatever they want with their money, [but] she’ll call her telephone company and lie to say she’s had poor reception to receive compensation.”
Her friend goes on and on about how working is for losers, and she’s on the verge of finding a man who will gladly pay for her needs and wants.
She literally says she would rather be sobbing in a Lamborghini than a Mazda. She’s having such a hard time with how fake her friend has gotten.
Every time she sees her, her friend only wants to talk about her dreams of being an influencer, or cosmetic surgery, and how it’s foolish to have a job.
The last time she hung out with her friend, she had a whole folder on her phone filled with photos of gorgeous noses, because she can’t wait to get the work done to look like that.
“I think this makes me feel bad knowing how much emphasis she puts on superficial things, which is wildly different [from] me. It also makes me reluctant to share any problems or issues in my personal life (mortgage stress, work issues, life things in general) because she seems so far removed from reality,” she continued.
“I should mention, the interesting thing is, she has not gone on a single date in close to 15 years. How do I make sense of how I’m feeling in this friendship?”
It’s perfectly normal to outgrow some friends, and I think this is what she’s struggling to see here. This is no longer a friend who fits with her life, and that’s alright.
Her friend is completely delusional (and she’s too old to be acting like that), so I don’t blame her for no longer wanting to be as close to her.
What advice do you have for her?
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