When it comes to dating in modern society, the bar is already pretty low. At the very least, basic manners are expected. So, if your date doesn’t even have that, don’t even bother continuing on.
The other day, TikToker @_rva_lady went to meet up with a guy for coffee. When she got there, she texted him to let him know. He was already inside, sitting at a table.
It was clear that he had been there for quite a while because his computer was open and his notes were spread out across the table.
She greeted him, but he didn’t stand up from the table to acknowledge her. He told her to order a drink and have a seat with him.
She had never been to this particular shop, so she spent a few minutes talking to the barista about the seasonal drinks and deciding what to order.
After her drink was made, she took a seat with her date. He asked her if she was being difficult because it seemed like it had taken her a long time to place an order.
That comment was rude and dismissive, and she had had enough of him. Rather than sitting through an uncomfortable conversation and hoping his attitude improved, she stood up, told him that it wasn’t going to work out, and left.
Leaving takes confidence, especially when many people would feel pressured to stay and see the date through out of politeness, even after someone has made them feel uneasy.
In the comments section, some TikTok users applauded her for not wasting any time before getting up and walking away. Others said that they would have left even earlier.
“I’m glad you left, but I think I would have left after he didn’t get up to properly say hello and tell me to go get myself a drink,” stated one user.
“When he didn’t stand up, it was over at that point. Unacceptable,” commented another.
“Look, I like a good coffee date, but even a coffee date requires some minimal dating effort on the part of the guy. The fact that you had to go buy your own drink while he’s sitting there,” added a third.
Overall, first dates are often less about grand romantic gestures and more about whether someone makes you feel valued, respected, and welcomed. In this case, the combination of staying glued to his seat, sending her to order alone, and then criticizing her for taking a few minutes completely killed the vibe.
Those are the kinds of things you would probably rather uncover within the first 10 minutes of meeting than after investing time into several more dates.
Have you ever experienced a similar awkward meetup? How would you handle a rude date?
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By Emily Chan
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