If you were dating someone who made you pretend to be their family member when their ex showed up at their house, would you no longer want to see them?
This woman has been dating a man for the last four months, and they are not yet in a committed relationship, but he did say he hasn’t been speaking to other girls, and she’s only interested in him.
Now, this guy had an interesting relationship with a girl years before he met her, and they had a dominant/submissive kind of thing going on.
Not too long ago, she spent the weekend with this guy, and while she was at his house, this girl dropped by unannounced and uninvited!
“He told me to pretend to be his cousin, ‘so she wouldn’t get violent.’ I was obviously mad because if she’s your ex, why is she here? Why do I need to act like your cousin? Why are you even letting her in? She started yelling, told him to tell me to leave,” she explained.
“I managed to get her to calm down by pretending to be his cousin, so she could answer my questions. I didn’t want her or me to leave, and then I only had his side to believe. She said they were currently dating, but he denied it right in front of her.”
“She said they saw each other twice the week before I came to visit him. He confirmed that. Which he didn’t tell me about prior to this situation. One of the days, he told me he was with his family; now I know it was a lie. She alluded to them [being romantic] recently.”
This guy was silent when his ex said that, but later on, when she was talking to him on the phone, he insisted he did not hook up with his ex.
She’s not sure if she should buy that story because otherwise, she thinks he would have denied it with his ex present. She ended up leaving this guy’s place because she felt super foolish, as she hoped he would kick his ex out.
This guy did not try to prevent her from leaving; he let her walk out the door, and he didn’t even try to run after her. Two hours later, he called her to fill her in.
“The whole drive home, I kept thinking to myself, are they [hooking up] now that I left?…Maybe this is their thing: she misbehaves on purpose, and he punishes her,” she continued.
“Long story short, I ended things with him. However, it hurts because I really like this guy. He said he values me, but his actions on this day say otherwise.”
“Did I overreact? Can you forgive and give someone like this another chance? I have respect for myself, and it feels like a low self-esteem thing to do. I don’t think he would value me if I gave him another chance.”
Ok, it is beyond weird that he made her pretend to be his cousin in front of his ex, and to me, it absolutely points to him and his ex still hooking up.
If he wasn’t afraid of his ex knowing they have been dating, he wouldn’t have made her act like a family member. She needs to run, not walk, away from this guy and never, ever call him again.
What do you think she should do?
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