This man and his girlfriend have been in a relationship for five years and moved in together two years ago.
He considers her the love of his life, and their friends always joke that he and his girlfriend are the same person of the opposite gender because they have so many hobbies in common.
Throughout their entire relationship, they’ve communicated effectively. Like most couples, they’ve had occasional disagreements but never yelled or cussed at one another.
Luckily, they’ve always been able to come to an understanding right away. Their relationship has been nearly perfect.
Tragically, his girlfriend’s parents passed away in a car accident three years ago, and she was understandably devastated. Ever since then, she has struggled with her weight, and it’s been an issue over the last three years.
While he’s been physically fit since he was 16, he struggled with his weight as a child and sadly dealt with horrible comments from bullies.
He went on a weight loss and fitness journey to live healthier. To this day, he copes with the pain he endured during his childhood.
“I was always at her side and tried my very best to comfort her and be her emotional support and rock. She seemed to recover from the shock but then started gaining weight without control,” he said.
Early on, his girlfriend only gained several pounds, so he didn’t think it was that big of a deal, and he assumed it was due to her immense grief.
However, she continued to gain weight over the years. He asked if she wanted to try going to therapy, but she rejected the idea and claimed that only “‘psychopaths'” went to therapy.
After that, he offered to give her workout pointers if she went to the gym with him, but she rejected this idea, too. When he asked if she wanted to go on a diet with him so that he could support her on her weight loss journey, she rejected the offer.
She also rejected his request for her to join him on a run at a park near their home, and this cycle has continued throughout the last three years.
“It’s really frustrating trying to help someone you love when they reject everything brutally. So, a week ago, I gave her an ultimatum because I can’t stay here and watch my loved one ruining her life,” he explained.
During the conversation with his girlfriend, he worded the ultimatum as kindly and carefully as possible.
Despite this, she was upset and began sobbing, claiming he didn’t love her. In response, he assured her he loved her and that he’d only offered ideas for losing weight because he cared about her.
He continued, expressing that he didn’t know what to do since she rejected all his ideas and felt like this ultimatum was his last resort.
“In three years, we haven’t slept together because she feels ugly and unattractive. So, she didn’t even try, and every time I tried, she always brushed it off rudely,” he shared.
No matter how physically affectionate he continued to be, and no matter how many kind gestures he made to show his love for his girlfriend, she didn’t seem to feel any more secure. Over the last three years, he worked hard to show how much he cared for her.
What advice would you give him?
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