It’s been five weeks now that this 28-year-old girl has been seeing a guy the same age as her. For two weeks, he was away on a work trip, so they shared locations since he wanted her to know when he was on the job site or not.
She didn’t see a problem with location sharing, as it’s something she does with all of her loved ones. A couple of days ago, he asked her to hang out, but she turned him down because she was feeling sick and wanted to stay in.
An hour after that, her friend asked her to grab dinner and drinks, and she was feeling much better, so she agreed.
She never informed the guy she’s seeing about her change of plans since they don’t share information like that at this stage in their relationship.
“He texted me about halfway through dinner and asked what I was up to, but my phone was in my bag, and I didn’t check it until I got home,” she explained.
She arrived back at her house close to seven that evening, and as she went to reply to his text, she saw that his location stated he was in her city.
She instantly became creeped out by this, as he doesn’t live in her city and instead lives close to half an hour away from her.
She then investigated further and learned that he was in a park just one block over from her home.
“I texted him and asked why he was there, and he said he was waiting for me to get home, and then he pulled up to my house, parked on the street, and texted me asking if we could talk and asked why I was at the bar for 2 hours when I said I was sick,” she added.
“I was scared, so I locked my doors and texted him, asking him to leave, which he did. He got home and apologized, said that I wasn’t texting back and he went to the bar to see who I was with, but I had already left when he got there.”
“He has an ex who cheated on him, and he thought I was cheating, but I was just with a girlfriend and didn’t feel the need to update him on my every move since we haven’t been seeing each other for that long.”
Also, since they have only been dating for a bit more than a month, they have not yet had a conversation to define their relationship.
This guy mentioned to her that he hadn’t texted or called her before heading over to check out her location so that he could find out who she was meeting up with so she would not have the opportunity to lie.
That deeply concerned her, especially since they don’t know one another that well, and she thinks it’s crazy that he would think it’s alright to follow her around like some kind of private investigator.
“I obviously turned off my location, and he has apologized profusely, but I don’t know what to do,” she said.
“He seems nice and was genuine in his apology but this seems like controlling behavior so early on. He says he’s never like this, but he just has PTSD from his ex cheating and felt like he was back in that moment. Should I give this dude the benefit of the doubt or run?”
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