Pregnancy can absolutely be a rollercoaster, especially for first-time parents, but what happens when the ride feels more like a hostage situation?
This 25-year-old man and his 22-year-old girlfriend are expecting, and he was hoping they would be able to show one another some support through this next step in their relationship.
However, every single fight they get into ends with his girlfriend threatening to terminate her pregnancy. It doesn’t simply happen on occasion; it happens literally every time his girlfriend is angry.
After she threatens to get rid of their baby, it hurts his feelings and leaves him helpless. There really is nothing he can do to prevent her from going through with this.
His girlfriend is eight weeks along, and they did not plan on having a baby, but after getting the news, they were committed to making it work.
“Our relationship has been getting stronger before this happened, and we felt we were in a good place for this. The problem is she had already suffered from anxiety, and I think her being pregnant is skyrocketing it and causing her to say things she doesn’t necessarily mean,” he explained.
“We have argued about things, and whenever it has to do with money or her not feeling like she’s getting proper support from me, she will say she might as well ‘get rid of it’ or ‘obviously we aren’t ready, I’m going to make an appointment.'”
“We got into another argument about finances, specifically because she asked if we could stop by McDonald’s on the way home, and I said we needed to save and continued driving, and she said it again: that we wouldn’t have to worry about it if she were no longer pregnant.”
He snapped at her that she should go ahead then because nothing is really preventing her from following through. He then asked if he had to make the appointment for her.
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His girlfriend began yelling at him that he had no heart and that she hated him for not being considerate. His girlfriend called him disgusting and said she no longer wanted to be around him.
Since then (four days now), his girlfriend has been sleeping in the nursery set up for the baby or on the couch instead of in their bed.
“I know emotions are running high, and pregnancy is really stressful, but I also feel manipulated and exhausted by this constant threat hanging over me,” he continued.
“I’m usually apologetic, and I stopped. I’ve tried to get her to come along, and I’m not sure if what I said warrants this response from her. I’m walking on eggshells because I don’t want to add fuel to the fire.”
He’s left wondering if he’s wrong for what he said to his girlfriend following her nonstop threats to pull the plug on their baby.
There’s only so much you can take, and it makes sense that he hit his breaking point. It sounds like his girlfriend needs to see a psychiatrist because I don’t believe she’s behaving in a normal way.
And if there is nothing wrong with his girlfriend, well, then she’s just manipulative and holding things over his head, so that’s how the rest of his life with her will look.
In that case, perhaps having the baby isn’t a good idea, and breaking up is.
What do you think?
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