If you went to see your fiancé’s family for the first time, only to have his uncle sneak into your bedroom and cut your hair while you were sleeping, would you reconsider your engagement?
In November, this 22-year-old girl is marrying her 26-year-old fiancé, and not too long ago, she moved to Germany from America to be with him.
Since her fiancé proposed, he really wanted her to meet his entire family, and she said yes. At first, she met his mom, dad, and siblings.
A couple of days later, she was introduced to his aunt and uncle. All of his loved ones were kind, except for his uncle, who told her to try harder with her appearance, but he never said that to her when her fiancé was in the same room with them.
She did find this strange, but she’s half Mexican and used to that side of her family being far too comfortable with making mean remarks to her face, so she figured this was the same thing going on.
“He asked me to do a spin for him, which made me super uncomfortable, but his aunt was acting like I was overreacting; it felt very creepy,” she explained.
“Once he had seen my hair, he told me my hair was “ungepflegt” (messy/unhygienic), which is very, very harsh IMO…my hair is slightly wavy and waist length, and I had washed my hair the day prior, so I’m not sure what prompted him to call it that.”
“He started to ramble on about preferring girls with shorter hair, naming celebrities to my fiancé’s aunt, which made her look uncomfortable.”
Not long after, she and her fiancé went upstairs for the evening to go to sleep. But when she woke up the following morning, there were chunks of her hair that someone had cut off her head!
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It looked completely awful, and she immediately let her fiancé know about it. He then went to his parents, who didn’t exactly believe someone in the house would have cut her hair.
However, her fiancé informed her that he had gotten up to get water in the middle of the night, and his uncle was the only one who was still awake.
She flew home to America, and her fiancé then let her know that his mom had a camera in the house that pointed towards the stairs to the second floor.
He was able to pull the footage and caught his uncle walking up the stairs holding something in his hands at 2 in the morning. Meanwhile, his uncle was supposed to have been sleeping downstairs in the guest room.
“My fiancé said that he won’t make me go to any family gatherings with him if I don’t want to, but I don’t know what to do. Once he saw the footage, he told me he freaked out on his uncle, and my fiancé won’t tell me everything, but he said that he has a criminal history for stalking women in the past,” she continued.
“A few days later, I saw his car drive up and down our street, and I know it was his car because he drives a bright red Audi A8, which is hard to miss. I’m not sure what to say or what to do, as of right now, he hasn’t shown up or anything in the past 2 days, but I’m still scared.”
“My fiancé is refusing to explain the situation from a few years ago when he got charged with harassment and stalking. What do I do?”
I think she should call off this wedding. Her fiancé’s uncle is a dangerous man, and who knows what else he could have done to her when he snuck into the room at night?
It’s really insane to me that her fiancé will not tell her what happened with his uncle a couple of years ago, which is why I think she should leave him and his family far behind.
This means her fiancé is not doing everything to protect her, especially considering he knowingly allowed her to be around a man who has a history of endangering women.
What advice do you have for her?
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By Bre Avery Zacharski
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