Imagine finding a partner so incredible that you joke about them being too perfect, only to uncover that they’ve been keeping two enormous secrets from you. When your love for someone is poisoned by their deception, should you give them another chance?
This 25-year-old woman met her 28-year-old boyfriend on Facebook a year ago, and he spent three months courting her until they officially started dating.
Her boyfriend appeared to be the man of her dreams while she was getting to know him. He works hard, is family-oriented, and shows consistency. He also happens to be very sweet and handsome.
She got to meet her boyfriend’s family early in their relationship, and she grew close to them. Her boyfriend never once made her feel uneasy or offended.
“He always made time for me, traveled 3 hours just to see me, took me on dates, gave me gifts, and genuinely made me feel loved. Sometimes he would drive all that way just so we could have a meal together,” she explained.
“Honestly, he treated me so well that I sometimes joked he was too much of a green flag. A few months into the relationship, I found out that he had been married before.”
“This led to a huge fight because, from the very beginning, I told him that lying was one thing I could never tolerate. Eventually, I forgave him because he explained that they were already divorced, and I believed people can learn from their past mistakes.”
Things went on as per usual following that shocking discovery. They then started to discuss getting married, and their families were thrilled for them.
She did picture spending the rest of her life with her boyfriend, but that all changed not too long ago after a fateful Instagram find.
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She was stalking her boyfriend’s sister on Instagram, and in her highlights, she saw photos of a baby where she had written “Proud Aunt,” and tagged her boyfriend!
Her stomach dropped, and she wasted no time confronting her boyfriend. He did confess to her that he has a kid.
“We both ended up crying during the conversation. He’s asking me for another chance, and honestly, I don’t know what to do.
What hurts me the most is not that he was married before or that he has a child,” she continued.
“It’s the fact that these are huge parts of his life that I had to discover myself instead of hearing them from him. The hardest part is that aside from those things, he has been a genuinely good partner.”
They video call on a daily basis, share locations, and her boyfriend has been completely involved in her life. She adores his family, and they have all mentioned she’s brought nothing but positive changes to her boyfriend.
He pushes himself to be a better man and makes such an effort to treat her well. This is why she’s really struggling with what to do.
“Part of me feels betrayed because he hid two life-changing truths from me. Another part of me sees the man he has been throughout our relationship and the love and effort he has consistently shown,” she continued.
“This is my first serious relationship, and I genuinely love him. But I don’t know if love is enough when trust has been damaged this badly. Has anyone been in a similar situation? Did you stay? Were you able to rebuild trust after finding out something this major?”
Wow, love is not enough to save this one. Her boyfriend is nothing but a liar, and he kept two big secrets from her, which is genuinely unforgivable.
I guess he’s a deadbeat dad on top of that, too, because he obviously isn’t involved in his kid’s life. As soon as she and her boyfriend started discussing getting married should have been his time to come clean about everything.
Since he didn’t, she shouldn’t ever entertain tying herself to this man like that. This is breakup-worthy.
What advice do you have for her?
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