There are so many valid reasons why someone would ask for a divorce, such as infidelity, different goals for life, growing apart, and money problems, to name a few.
But how would you feel if your spouse asked for a divorce because they were convinced that a local celebrity was madly in love with them and sending them secret coded messages online?
This 28-year-old man has a 27-year-old wife, and they have been with one another for seven years and have a child together. They have definitely lived through some trauma, including miscarriages, emotional discord, and terrible financial struggles.
His wife stated she thought he was not listening to her enough, and to be fair, he was needy and required more than she could give him.
“Those years left real damage on both sides. Now that things are more stable financially and practically, she says she’s done; like she held on through the hard times but can’t continue anymore,” he explained.
“We still live under the same roof. But over the past 6 months, something else has been going on. She became deeply attached to a local content creator with around 700K followers on Facebook and Instagram.”
She sends this celebrity in their zip code DMs. She comments on all of his posts. She replies to his stories. She’s made herself believe that everything he publishes online is full of secret coded messages meant just for her, and her only.
His wife thinks this man is wildly in love with her, but is too shy to admit it in real life, which is why he’s sending her secret messages online.
Now, this celebrity has not once replied to his wife directly, which she says further points to him being obsessively in love with her.
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“At first, I thought it was a parasocial crush. But she’s shown me so many ‘coincidences’ and timing patterns that I’ll admit even I started questioning myself for a moment,” he added.
“I’ve tried to reason with her repeatedly, but every attempt pushes her further away. She even believes that other female creators with smaller audiences are jealous of her because of this connection.”
“I’m exhausted. I still love her. I’ve stayed loyal and tried to show up as best I could. But I don’t know how to reach her anymore.”
His wife has since asked him for a divorce so she can be free to pursue her crush. He’s left wondering what he can do to get to the bottom of what’s going on with his wife and whether they still have a future.
Wow, it sounds to me like his wife is encountering some serious mental health issues, because she’s definitely not acting in a rational way.
I think his last-ditch effort should be suggesting that his wife see a doctor or therapist. But if she’s really done and wants a divorce, there’s really nothing he can do about that except give it to her.
He can’t make her better; she has to want that for herself. And he also can’t stick around and hope that she magically wakes up and realizes the error of her ways.
What advice do you have for him?
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