If you got separated from your spouse, then they moved their affair partner into your house, and begged you to take them back, would you?
This 38-year-old woman and her 40-year-old husband are high school sweethearts. They have been together for 22 years, and they got married 18 years ago.
Her husband has been having an affair with one of his female coworkers for years, and she found out back in 2023, which broke her heart.
She could not bring herself to eat for nearly three months, so she lost 60 pounds. Two months after uncovering the affair, she made the choice to move out of her house and separate from her husband.
She thought the separation would help her heal. Three days later, her husband sobbed and pleaded with her to come home, stating that he could not bear to lose her and was interested in fixing their marriage.
She came back because that’s all she had wanted from her husband: to show his remorse and fight for her.
“From there, I found out that in April 2024, he was still seeing her; he begged again. Found out again, at the beginning of July, he couldn’t stop, and we ended the false reconciliation, and he moved her into our marital home for a week,” she explained.
“Kicked her out and was back to begging, but after 2 days, he was back to it. Moved her back in for a week and kicked her out again after I filed for divorce.”
“Since then, it’s been almost a month of back and forth, reconciliation attempts, and discovery. Just tonight, once again, I find out he’s still sleeping with her after claiming to be done with her for good. It’s always the same.”
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She’s two years into her husband’s cheating, and she’s aware she’s to blame for taking him back. But when he does come crawling back, he’s so full of love and kindness, and everything does get better until he goes back to his affair partner.
She knows she has no respect for herself, as she is still continuing to be with a man who doesn’t respect her. She’s beautiful, men hit on her, she’s in the best shape of her life, and she’s financially secure. She has to be done with her husband once and for all.
Earlier today, her husband told her that he was going to work. But then his affair partner texted her to say they have been sleeping together, and this woman thought she knew that.
“He never went to work; he went out with her. I’m sitting here devastated and desperate for him to explain, and he knows. He told me hours ago he would tell me more, he said he would call me back, and he just left me here, hurting like I don’t matter,” she continued.
“He left her angry, then went back to her. I have to stop the cycle, and I keep getting close, but I always fall back. We have a home together, two older teens (17,19) in the home, and I think I’m just desperate for things to be ‘normal’ again. He’s destroying us and doesn’t care.”
“I just wanted to vent here because I know the one friend I barely have, my mom, and my mother-in-law, are all tired of hearing about it. They want me to walk away, even his own mom. It’s on me. I have no self-respect, and I want to change that more than anything.”
It is time for her to leave her husband behind, because she’s stuck in a super toxic cycle, and I don’t blame her mother-in-law and mom for being sick of hearing about this mess.
Her husband has no love for her, so she has to quit wasting her time on giving him more chances. This is divorce-worthy.
What advice do you have for her?
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