This 25-year-old woman and her 27-year-old husband got married a year ago, and they have a 7-month-old baby together. She’s a stay-at-home mom who felt stuck in the apartment after giving birth.
She didn’t do anything except stay home with their baby, which caused her to develop severe depression. In May, her mom suggested taking her and the baby on vacation to see their family in another state.
She was so thrilled, and her husband figured it would be a great idea for her to get out of the house. In June, she and the baby went on the trip for a whole month.
Two weeks into the trip, her husband started being mean to her out of nowhere. He quit responding to her texts, shut his location off so she couldn’t see, and pushed her away.
She couldn’t figure out what she had done to deserve that kind of treatment, and she had a bad feeling that something was really wrong.
“I asked him if he was cheating, and he blew up on me, saying how could I say that, etc. he assured me he’d never do that, but he wanted space from how disappointed he was in me that I’d even think that,” she explained.
“Okay. Well. Two days ago my friend sent me a screenshot of my husband being posted on the tea app (if you’re unfamiliar with the tea app it’s basically a app where women post men and ask other women about that man) and my husband was posted with the caption saying, ‘does anyone know him, I want to know more but he’s acting like he’s hiding something.'”
“I immediately felt sick, and when I sent him the screenshot, he denied it, of course, and all he would say is ‘we will talk when you get back from your trip.'”
She pleaded with her husband to tell her what happened, or she would reach out to the girl who made the post about him, but her husband ignored her.
So, four hours later, she did send a message to this girl. The girl wanted to know if she was with her husband a week ago, and she said she wasn’t.
Next, the girl asked to call her, and she agreed to chat with her over the phone. This girl revealed that her husband added her on Instagram on June 18th, which was 10 days after she left for vacation.
Her husband picked this girl up on June 18th and brought her to their house, where he slept with her in their bed, and without being safe, if you catch my drift. The following day, this girl met up with her husband and hooked up with him again in their bed.
Apparently, this girl made the post on the app because she was catching feelings for her husband, but found it bizarre that he was being evasive about certain details.
“…I asked what the room looked like, and she described our room perfectly. She thought it was weird that some things were covered with blankets (that was my stuff covered), and that there was a pacifier on the floor, and when she asked, he said it was his nephew’s,” she added.
“I felt so sick. I ended the call and immediately called my husband. He was very cold and didn’t say much other than now you know. The next morning, he texted me saying he resented me for leaving him, even though he knew I needed it.”
“He hated me for it because he took it personally, or something like that, and he’s remorseful and sorry because he just wasn’t thinking. I don’t buy that for a second.”
Her husband made a move on that girl, drove to get her, invited her to their place to hook up with him, gave her a ride home, and covered up her things, so this girl wouldn’t see.
She is appalled and blindsided because their marriage was in a nice place before she went away. She hasn’t been able to sleep or eat since finding out about what her husband did.
Since she doesn’t have a job, that means she has no money to move out of their place. She will need to go home to him in a week while she determines her future.
Her husband has said he’s willing to financially support her and her baby. He also confessed to being so mean to her because he felt guilty and wanted to tell her to her face instead of over the phone.
She can’t believe her husband would do such a thing, and he’s not acting like the guy she walked down the aisle with. Her husband has gone on to say that he only told that girl what she wanted to hear so he could get her in bed. He claimed this girl didn’t mean anything to him.
“He’s also replacing our bed as if that’s also supposed to make me feel better. We have a two-bedroom, so I’ll be living in the master bedroom while he stays in the other,” she continued.
“I hate that I have to go back to that place. All I can think about is how he let her in and just did it like nothing. With no regard to how I feel. I’m just so lost.”
She should tell her husband before her trip is over that she wants a divorce, along with half of everything. She also really needs to tell her mom about what happened, because I don’t think her mom would make her go home to this man.
I would like to think that if her mom was nice enough to take her on vacation for a whole month, that means her mom will let her and the baby move in, or she can help her find a new living arrangement.
No matter what, she absolutely should not go home to her husband. Oh, and she should get a job while seeing if her family can help care for her baby.
What advice do you have for her?
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