If you were dating someone who had a really wild past and they brought it up on a night out, would you be concerned that it’s a sign they haven’t changed and left their crazy ways behind them?
This 30-year-old woman has a 37-year-old boyfriend, and on Saturday evening last weekend, she and some of her friends at work held a dinner party to say goodbye to one of their coworkers who is moving to the other side of the country to work in a separate branch of the company.
When they were done having dinner at the restaurant, they kept on partying, and they all had their significant others join them after that. She definitely had a bit too much to drink that night, and then she went outside with some of her coworkers who smoke.
“We were talking about bad decisions while being drunk, and at one point I said something like, ‘I got one of my daughters made [in] a nightclub bathroom and the other one on the beach one night,'” she explained.
“In our language, it just sounds very ugly and irresponsible. My daughters are from two different men, and they both fled after they knew I was pregnant.”
Her boyfriend was inside with the other men, so he did not overhear the comment she made about how her children came to be, but one of her female coworkers made sure her boyfriend knew what she confessed.
She’s convinced this coworker told her boyfriend because she wants to get with him, and she knew that her dose of honesty would hurt her boyfriend.
Her boyfriend is a widower. He has a five-year-old daughter. He’s the polar opposite of who she used to be. Her boyfriend is an amazing dad, and he’s happy, responsible, and trustworthy.
“I can’t believe I may lose him for something like this. We’ve been dating 6 months, and I am in love with him, but alcohol took the best of me, and I behaved like my old self that night, talked like I used to talk, and made [a fool] of myself,” she continued.
“He went on a work [trip] on Monday and arrived today, and told me he wants us to talk this afternoon, and I fear he might dump me. How can I convince him I’m no longer that person and that I’ve changed?”
Every time someone says they need to talk to me, it makes my stomach drop, because you know nothing good can ever come of a conversation like that.
I think her fears are valid, and it does sound like her boyfriend is about to break up with her over what she said about how her pregnancies came about.
Also, I don’t care what language she speaks, because there’s no good way to say you got knocked up in a club bathroom. That absolutely makes her appear like she’s wild and out of control, and I’m guessing her boyfriend is concerned about that.
She seems irresponsible, too, if she had two different kids with random men who then bounced. Once is bad enough, but twice means she probably didn’t learn her lesson.
She should ask herself if she really has changed, because otherwise, she would not be bragging about getting knocked up to her coworkers.
What advice do you have for her?
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