Her Boyfriend Bought Her An Engagement Ring And Has Been Promising All Year To Propose To Her But She’s Worried That’s Not Going To Happen Since The Year Is Almost Finished
A 28-year-old woman is dating a man 4 years younger than her, and they originally met on Tinder a little less than 4 years ago.
Her boyfriend is in the military and was stationed in the city where she lived. After they had their first date, they really hit things off and her boyfriend said he wanted to seriously date her.
She was uncertain about getting into another relationship because she had just gone through an awful breakup, but she ultimately agreed.
A year into dating her boyfriend she started talking with him about what their future would look like.
They talked about having children and getting married, and she initially only brought these topics up to see if he would get scared off.
He didn’t get scared off and even insisted that he really wanted to get married and have kids with her.
They began referring to one another as husband and wife, and a year and a half later, they moved in together.
They considered a common law marriage in case her boyfriend had to deploy, but that did not end up happening.
Her boyfriend then got out of the military and had the opportunity to move closer to where his family lived, so he asked her to pick up and move with him.
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She made it clear that she would only make the move with him if he planned to marry her. She didn’t want to change her entire life for him without that kind of commitment.
Her boyfriend told her that they would absolutely get married, and he went out and bought her an engagement ring.
He promised this whole year that he would propose to her, but he never went through with proposing at all.
“Well, we had a mishap on New Year’s (we fought because he left me behind in a city I don’t know to go to his friends and then texted me the address to meet him there. All the while I’m in our Airbnb (we reserved it before knowing we were moving) with our dogs and not knowing where I was,” she explained.
“Next we finally got keys to our temporary home and nothing. My birthday on the beach, nothing. Start of fall and going to a pumpkin patch or apple orchard, nothing, thanksgiving, you guessed it, nothing.”
“I know he won’t do it on Christmas as I don’t want anything to go wrong on my favorite day of the year, i.e getting divorced and hating Christmas. So all we have is the first real snow day if it’s in December or New Year’s Eve”.
“We’ve had several fights through the year about this because I feel like he is dragging his feet on it.”
She feels terrible for constantly bringing up the proposal so frequently, but this was supposed to be their plan and he was the one who said it was going to happen this year.
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Her boyfriend was engaged once before her and has expressed some concerns about getting engaged again, but he also said that she is nothing like his ex.
“I know marriage is a big step but, considering we discussed having kids before I’m 30, him telling me he was ready to settle down when we met, and me relocating here with him it wouldn’t feel like sluggish,” she said.
“I don’t even mind having a long engagement, he had picked 2023 in October to get married, and he wants it on the family farm (my dream) and he even helped pick colors with me for the wedding and what he wants to wear. Even who his groomsmen are.”
She simply doesn’t understand why he has not proposed to her yet, especially since he already bought the ring.
Additionally, they have been consistently saving money for their wedding, and they do live together.
They have dogs, they share finances…she’s just left feeling confused.
How would you feel in this situation?
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