The Guy She’s Been Seeing For 3 Months Didn’t Get Her Any Gifts For The Holidays Or Do Anything Special For Her So She’s Thinking Of Ending Things

A 35-year-old woman has been seeing a 49-year-old man for the last 3 months, and this guy is an extremely successful CEO who owns his own business.

She’s pretty certain he’s secretly rich, even though he lives in a very average and middle-class way.

“He’s also a good guy (mostly), we have a lot in common, he’s very supportive of my passions and loves to give me compliments,” she explained.

“Since we started dating, I’ve let him pay the bill whenever we go out to dinner. I think because he’s so well off, I just expect him to pay (I know that sounds bad, but it’s honest).”

“He also knows that as an entrepreneur I’ve entered the slowest months of the year so things are a bit tight for me, financially.”

They mostly meet up two days every week and go out to dinner with one another. She isn’t positive this guy is the best fit for her, and she thinks that he’s aware of that.

He can be cheap, he gets angry over little things, he’s introverted, and he’s serious; which all bothers her.

Two weeks ago, she nearly broke up with him but then decided against it. She also is sure he knows she was ready to call it quits.

Right before Christmas, she arranged to see him before she headed to her family’s house, and she gave him the Christmas gifts she bought him.

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She was surprised to find that he didn’t get her anything, but she tried to downplay it because he does pay for every single dinner they have.

She left to see her family, the holidays passed, and then she called him up when she came home. They had a nice chat on the phone, and he asked if he could take her out for “a nice night.”

She figured this was some kind of after holiday present to her, which she found very sweet.

“I started to have feelings for him and thought, he really is a good guy,” she said. “How thoughtful of him. (Generosity/gift-giving is my love language) We were going to get dinner the next night.”

“The next thing I know, he’s calling me and told me he was too busy to go out the next night and he was worried about getting covid before he visits his daughter so would I be ok with staying in and getting carryout? To…his favorite sushi place?”

“I said, can we get different food? To which he replied, “I’m paying”. So I said sure, we can do sushi. He also said, how about 8:30? He goes to bed at 10:30.”

“This, to me, was sushi and a booty call.”

Initially, she was alright with this, but then she decided that he really does not care about her or value her in the least.

She felt that he wasn’t making any effort at all, so she phone him up and said that she changed her mind and would not be meeting up with him at all.

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“I told him I was upset and that he does a great job at making me feel unspecial,” she continued.

“I felt awkward saying something like that so early on but it’s what came out. And it was built up from other things I had been thinking about. He said it wasn’t his intention and blah blah. I still didn’t come over.”

“I know that things are very uncertain in the beginning stages of a relationship and that you have to be patient and understanding as you both figure things out.”

“But am I being too understanding? No Christmas present. No special night out to celebrate the holiday/New Year.”

Earlier today, he arrived home from seeing his daughters, and he asked if she would like to head to a local arcade to play video games, but there was no mention of a nice dinner like he had promised days ago.

She’s left feeling like it is time to call this quits, but she’s unsure. She is aware that she does not give men the impression of being nurturing, and she is wondering if this is why he is kind of pulling back.

“I also know he likes me but I don’t give him full confidence that I like him,” she concluded.

How would you handle this?

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