She Asked Her Sister To Be One Of Her Bridesmaids, But Now She Doesn’t Want Her Walking Down The Aisle Because She’s Afraid She’ll Have A Panic Attack
A woman is getting married in just one month, and she isn’t having the best time in the planning process.
She’s constantly felt the pressure to appease everyone else with her wedding, even though she’s footing the bill for the whole thing, and she’s just incredibly lonely and anxious while pulling her wedding together.
This feeling of putting everyone else before herself isn’t new or exclusive to her wedding planning process; it’s something she thinks she has done throughout her entire life.
As a child, she was forced pretty quickly to be more like an adult, and much of that was due to the fact that her mom treated her more like her own personal therapist than her child.
She had to emotionally hold her mom up, and now she’s the emotional rock for her partner as well as her friends.
Also, her 18-year-old sister is living with her right now, since the problems in their family are so severe.
“She was in a terrible situation and I wanted to be there for her, but if I’m being honest my original intention was to put serious space between me and my family,” she explained.
“I really wanted some time to breathe, but her safety was my first concern. I don’t regret that decision, just wish neither of us were put in the situation we were put in.”
Prior to her sister moving in with her, she made it clear that she was only going to be her sister’s roommate; not her surrogate mom.
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She pointed out that she did not have the energy to be there for her sister in that way.
She was aware that her sister suffered from panic attacks, but since her sister has moved in, it’s only gotten worse.
Her sister will cry, scream, hyperventilate, and nearly pass out. There isn’t one particular reason why her sister starts going through an attack, but every time her sister does, she rushes to her side to help her.
She has already asked her sister to be a bridesmaid in her upcoming wedding, but she’s convinced that her sister will have a panic attack on her special day and ruin everything.
“…I told her I still want her to be my bridesmaids, but asked if she thinks she’d be able to walk down the aisle and stand in front of everyone,” she said.
“She said she wasn’t worried about having a panic attack because she’s good at suppressing them (this isn’t true, it’s a whole thing, it’s loud, it’s scary, She’s often gone to the ER for it).”
“I told her she shouldn’t have to suppress it, that she could sit out of the walking down the aisle and standing with us part, I’d have the venue prepare a room for her just in case she feels an attack coming on, and her and her boyfriend (she hates our parents) could use it for privacy purposes if needed. She declined.”
At first, her husband-to-be was worried at all, but then he started taking note of her sister’s panic attacks, and now he’s super concerned as well.
They’re both not sure what to do. She does accept that you can’t plan out everything in life, but she really wants to avoid her sister making a scene at her wedding.
What can she do? You can read the original post on Reddit here.
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