She Learned That Her Boyfriend Was Pretending To Be Some Girl He Knows On A Dating App And She’s Wondering If This Means He’s Going Through An Identity Crisis
A 29-year-old woman is currently dating her 27-year-old boyfriend, and around 8 months ago, they picked up and relocated to a different state.
Her boyfriend has never lived outside of the town that he is from, and he’s been struggling to make friends in their new place and feel comfortable living there.
Adding to that, her boyfriend is really invested in football yet doesn’t have any other favorite pastimes aside from watching that sport, and since the season has ended, he doesn’t have a lot to do to keep himself occupied outside of work.
In contrast, it didn’t take her long to meet new friends and feel connected to where they live right now.
Not too long ago, she was surprised to get a message on social media from a man who revealed to her that her boyfriend has been pretending to be this man’s female fiancée on a dating app.
This man sent her screenshots of the weird profile her boyfriend was behind, along with the conversations her boyfriend had with people on the dating app.
This man who sent her a message got her boyfriend’s phone number on the app and was able to figure out who was really behind the profile that way.
Initially, she didn’t believe this man. She figured this was one twisted joke or some kind of a ploy, but when she got home she knew it had to be true.
Her boyfriend normally is super happy to see her when she comes home every day, though he was silent and dejected.
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Her boyfriend was slow to own up to him pretending to be a girl on a dating app, and it turns out that he actually knows the girl that he was pretending to be in real life.
This girl was someone that her boyfriend even had a crush on several years ago, yet she wasn’t single back when he was interested in her.
Her boyfriend maintained that the reason he did this odd thing was due to loneliness and boredom and wanting to speak to other people.
He defended his actions by saying he was mainly chatting with guys on the app, and not women.
Her boyfriend has always been the kind of person who’s into silly pranks and telling tall tales, but she never expected him to pretend to be another person on a dating app, let alone a girl.
“I agree that it’s not normal to pretend to be someone else to talk to people on a dating app,” she explained. “Or to go on any dating app while in a relationship in general.”
She has urged her boyfriend to find a therapist to talk to, and he’s on board with this, but she’s not sure if he’s agreeing to get help to avoid losing her or if it’s because he does realize he needs help.
She’s positive there’s something bigger at play here driving her boyfriend’s behavior, such as him going through some kind of identity crisis.
In the meantime, she asked him to leave their apartment so she can think about everything that just happened.
“He’s not a malicious person and I still don’t feel any malice from him, just utter shame,” she said. “He’s always been kind to me and we’ve had a generally healthy relationship.”
“Small fights about chores and normal couple stuff, so this is really straight out of left field.”
Do you think her boyfriend pretended to be this girl because he was just lonely in a new place and wanted to have some kind of connection with people?
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