Chip Chick
Nope, she was wrong. This guy invited a bunch of friends for dinner, and she was not invited to eat with them.
So he expected her to invest 4 hours into an elaborate recipe of pulled pork and BBQ sauce, yet he didn’t want her to stick around and eat along with him and his friends.
She didn’t have much more to say to him as they finished up their grocery shopping. It left her feeling wildly silly and insignificant.
“He got irritated with me for ‘making assumptions that I would stay over for dinner’ and then being quiet and upset and avoidant (especially the avoiding part) about it when he told me I couldn’t,” she said.
She tried to make it clear to him why she was so hurt, but he didn’t quite see things from her perspective and he got angry with her.
“I can see why it can be frustrating when I get upset, because I get very quiet and cold/avoidant,” she continued.
“I’m aware this is a problem and I’m working on it. On the other hand, I feel like he should have communicated better and maybe cared about my feelings a little more.”
“He normally is a great person and this incident feels way out of character.”
Now, she has met his friends on previous occasions, and she likes his friends. His friends also know about her and the fact that she is seeing him, so it’s not like he’s keeping her some big secret from those closest to him.
She’s ok with him wanting to spend alone time with his friends, but it’s upsetting to her that he was planning on making her cook all of that food for them before asking her to leave his place.
In the end, she left without helping him cook for his friends, but she’s still wondering if she was wrong in assuming she would be eating a meal that she was expected to help him cook.
