He Went On A First Date With A Girl Who Didn’t Look Like Her Photos So He Broke Things Off, But Then She Sent Him A Lengthy Text Message That Has Him Questioning If He Handled Things In The Best Way
Not too long ago, a guy picked up and moved to a different country, and he decided he wanted to give dating a shot in his new area.
He got on a dating app, and he met a girl who seemed to be pretty wonderful. They had a lot of the same interests, and so they exchanged numbers so they could start texting.
He chatted with her via text for 2 weeks before asking her out on a first date. Unfortunately, when he met her for the first time in real life, he noticed she didn’t look like her photos on her dating profile.
“The physical attraction wasn’t there for me,” he explained. “I won’t go into detail but she did not look like how she looked in her profile photos.”
“I know this will sound shallow, but I think that it’s important. But despite my initial feelings, we went on the date and I tried my best to give it a go.”
“I felt terrible the whole time – in my head, I was thinking this girl is perfect. But I knew already she would never be more than a friend.”
He didn’t try to kiss her or anything since he resolved he wasn’t into her at all. As soon as their date was over, she texted him to see if they could go on a second date.
He stopped to consider if he should give her a second chance, but he didn’t want to lead her on so he ended things.
Instead of telling her the real reason as to why he wasn’t interested in her, he just said that he had a nice time on their date but he wasn’t ready to be in a relationship since he hadn’t been in the country for very long.
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He did say sorry, and this girl was not happy with the answer he gave to her, yet she asked if they could remain friends.
A day later, he didn’t text her at all, so she ended up sending him this lengthy message:
Hey, I’m really struggling to get passed what you said to me on Saturday. I know it was just one date, but I’ve never connected with someone so easily before. I was incredibly shocked by the outcome after such a great date…
It’s because of this I’m unable to move forward. When you told me the length of time that you’ve been here, I had my doubts that anything would come of our interaction. I’m just perplexed as to why you were on a dating app…what past anxieties did my presence happen to flare for you? I was willing to wait.
We had spoken for a few weeks now, every day, from morning until night. Why did it take meeting me for you to realize that you don’t want to be with me? – or supposedly anyone else for that matter. I feel weak for admitting this, but it’s really knocked my confidence.
Your words were stated in an “it’s not you, it’s me” manner, but with no room for discussion or elaboration. So I can’t help but run in circles in my head thinking that maybe I was genuinely that awful in person, but you couldn’t tell me.
That’s alright too, really. We haven’t spoken today, and it guts me. I don’t want to bother you and yet I want to talk so badly. I’m sorry. ‘If anything, outside of my feelings for you, I do really enjoy your company in a platonic sense too.
Your sense of humor is one of the best I’ve had the joy to experience. I think you’re a really positive and charismatic person. Your creativity is unparalleled and I love that I could talk to you about that topic. Whenever you’re ready, whoever gets you will be very lucky. Sorry but it’s weighing heavily on my chest.
Well, after that message, he’s certainly questioning if he handled things in the best way. What do you think?
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