These Are The Signs It’s Time For You To Call It Quits In Your Relationship
It’s Important To Know When It’s Time To Walk Away From A Relationship
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When it comes to romance, knowing when it’s time for you to pull the plug and call it quits on your relationship can be as important as knowing when it’s right for you to say “I love you” for the very first time.
It can be a hard call to make and a decision that leaves you anxiously worrying about whether you should stay or go.
Knowing when it is time to walk away is a tough call to make, but it’s something you have to do for your own best interests.
Here Are Some Questions To Ask Yourself Before Deciding To Break Up
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First, before you jump to any conclusions, you need to make sure you want the relationship to be over.
So many couples think their relationship is done when they are just in a rough patch. Ending a relationship is a big decision and should not be made lightly.
With that said, let’s take a look at some signs to watch for and questions to ask yourself and your partner before you decide to break up and call it quits in your relationship.
You Find Yourself Questioning If It’s Time To End Things Often
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If you are in a relationship where you have spent months or longer questioning whether or not to be in this relationship, it’s a big sign it might be time to call it quits.
You Harbor Resentment You Don’t Want To Bring Up With Your Partner
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To feel resentment from time to time can be perfectly normal, but a refusal to process and resolve that resentment is not.
If you feel resentment but don’t want to make any effort to fix it, that’s a bad sign. Maybe you don’t have the energy to work through that resentment, or you feel your partner won’t make any effort to repair things. Either way, it might be time to call it quits.
You Have The Same Fight Over And Over Again
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Fighting and conflict are expected in a relationship. Fighting about the same thing over and over is not.
When you fight about something, you should work toward a resolution and settle your differences on the matter.
However, if you keep fighting about the same thing and never work toward an understanding of where each of you stands in a conflict, that’s a bad sign. If, when you fight, you or your partner shuts down or concedes to stop the fight, it might be time to call it quits.
There Is No Trust
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Sometimes, someone in the relationship messes up. Maybe some promises were broken. Perhaps someone had an affair.
Maybe your partner will let you down in some way. For whatever reason, if the trust in a relationship has been broken, and no attempts to repair that trust were made, that’s a bad sign.
You cannot have a relationship without trust. Furthermore, if repair attempts were made, but you cannot get to a place where you trust them in any capacity, it might be time to call it quits.
You Don’t Feel “All In”
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Relationships take work. Both of you have to be willing to put in that work. If it is one-sided and you or your partner just won’t put in the work to build that relationship, it might be time to call it quits.
Here Are 10 Questions You Need To Ask Yourself Before Deciding If The Relationship Is Worth Saving Or If It’s Time To Call It Quits
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While there are certainly more signs than these, these signs are a great starting point for figuring out if your relationship is worth sticking out.
Next, let’s look at some questions you need to ask yourself to determine if you should stay or go.
Ask Yourself These Five Things First…
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-Have you voiced your unmet needs to your partner? If so, has your partner done anything to meet those needs or validate your feelings?
-Have you given your partner the chance to grow and change for the better?
-Are you sabotaging the relationship without giving it a fair chance?
-Do you make an effort to meet your partner’s needs?
-Is the relationship stagnant?
Then Ask Yourself These Five Things Next
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-Is the relationship one-sided in any way?
-Are you actively working on bettering the relationship?
-Are you willing to compromise or grow to save the relationship?
-Can you accept your partner for who they truly are (flaws and all)?
-Is relationship therapy/couples counseling something you would consider to save the relationship?
Lastly, Let’s Look At 10 Questions To Ask Your Partner Before You Call It Quits
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-Are you really happy in this relationship?
-What do you want from this relationship?
-Are you willing to grow and compromise with me?
-Are you willing to put in the work to make this relationship work?
-Do you think we have done all we can to save this relationship?
Here Are Five More Questions To Wrap It Up
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-Will you regret it if this relationship ends?
-Do you feel fulfilled in this relationship?
-Do you actually love me, or are you just infatuated with me?
-Do you see us growing old together?
-Is this relationship good for you?
Take Your Time And Think About What’s Best For You
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I want to point out that these questions are easily interchangeable and can be asked to yourself and your partner.
The whole point of all these signs and questions is to get you thinking. Relationships are full of ups and downs, and it is easy for a rough patch to feel like the end of the world.
Take your time and think things through. Talk to each other. Reach out to a relationship coach or a counselor if you need some extra help figuring out what to do.
Just make sure you don’t leave unless you are both confident that is what is best and what you actually want. The pain of effort will always beat the pain of regret.
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