She’s Refusing To Take Care Of Her Ex-Husband’s Daughter While He Undergoes Surgery
After this woman and her ex-husband got married, they had three children together– who are now ages twelve, eleven, and nine. But, after her youngest child was born, she and her ex’s marriage deteriorated big time.
Apparently, her ex fell in love with another woman whom they both knew. But, she obviously did not know her then-husband was having an affair at the time. So, whenever she interacted with the woman, she was treated like total garbage.
“The woman took her anger about the fact he was married out on me,” she explained.
“Then, when my ex was finally honest and open with me, he allowed her to come into the home we shared to tell me she was going to be my kids’ mom and she would take my life over.” Yikes!
So, as you can imagine, things were far from good between her and her ex for a very long time.
It also did not help that just eighteen months after they separated, her ex both married the woman and got her pregnant. And this decision did not just upset her, but it upset the kids.
Apparently, her ex was even having such a tough time getting their three kids excited about the new baby that he asked her to basically “play happy family.”
But, she was honest and told her ex that the most positive thing she could say about his new marriage and baby was just saying nothing at all. She had no intention of playing nice or acting like a caring family member for her cheating ex, his mistress, and their new baby.
Just in case the story could not get any worse, though, her ex’s mistress actually ended up bailing right after their baby girl was born.
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It later came out that the mistress never really wanted kids; instead, the mistress just wanted her ex-husband but realized that her ex would never love anyone more than his children.
On top of leaving, though, her ex’s mistress actually passed away just six months later. So, her ex was left with a new baby who had no mother and turned to her for help.
“He wanted me to get involved with his daughter. He told me his ex wasn’t coming back, and he had three kids with two parents and one with just him,” she revealed.
“But I told him I would never be that little girl’s mother.”
Don’t get me wrong, though: she holds nothing against the little girl. She recognizes that her ex’s daughter is just an innocent child who is also her children’s half-sister. So, she has been friendly and interacts with her ex’s daughter on occasion– just not in a motherly capacity.
And this arrangement worked out just fine for a while until recently, when she found out that her ex would be undergoing a pretty large surgery soon.
Apparently, her ex has been suffering from health problems for years now, and this surgery is very important.
The problem, though, is that while her ex gets the surgery and recovers, he will have no one to watch his daughter. So, again, she was asked to help him out.
This time, though, her ex also threw in an even bigger request. He asked if she would be willing to become his daughter’s guardian in the event that something happened to him.
She was shocked and was forced to reiterate her boundaries to her ex. But he just did not understand.
In fact, he kept begging her and claiming that it would be better for his daughter to be with family rather than with a friend of his who has no children. Then, he even tried to get their children involved– even after she kept refusing.
Apparently, her children also agreed with her and claimed that it would be weird for her ex’s daughter to live with them. At that point, though, she was just beyond pissed off that her ex would even try to bypass her decision by asking the kids.
So, they ended up arguing about this entire situation for over a week. And since she keeps refusing her ex’s wishes, she has gotten accused of being a total jerk who is taking her anger out on his daughter.
And at first, she thought her ex was just being ridiculous. But then, she found out that his daughter actually knew about everything that was going on. Plus, when she saw his daughter, his daughter apparently looked really sad.
Anyway, now she is feeling really guilty and cannot stop thinking about what his daughter must be going through. So, she has been left wondering whether or not refusing to take care of her ex’s daughter was the wrong thing to do.
Do you think she has any obligation to her ex after how he handled their separation? Do you believe that should impact her decision to care for his daughter or not? What would you do in this situation?
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