She Got Accused Of Financially Abusing A Guy She Recently Started Dating By Not Letting Him Move Into Her Rental Suite For Free
When this thirty-five-year-old woman was younger, she was fortunate enough to have her grandparents pay for her college education. Then, her parents even bought her a house.
So now, she has a job that pays a generous salary, and she is pretty well off.
“I know that I am blessed. I try and pass it forward,” she noted.
Even though she enjoys her line of work, though, she admits that she can be a difficult person to date. Most of the time, her job requires her to be away from home for weeks at a time.
And she did have a fiancé a few years ago, who she claims was a really good guy. But their relationship just did not work out, and he went on to marry another woman.
“I am friends with his wife,” she revealed.
About eight months ago, though, she did meet another guy who she started seeing whenever she was in town. He was apparently really respectful and always understood her boundaries.
But, their relationship started to turn sour recently– and it all began after he lost his job.
Apparently, because he lost his job, he was forced to consider giving up his apartment. And at that point, he proposed moving in together.
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Obviously, though, since she already owns her home, that would really just mean he moves into her house. And honestly, she did not think it was the best idea. After all, they just started dating, and she just is not ready– which is totally understandable.
Despite that, he claimed that her home city has a very high cost of living, and he cannot make ends meet there without stable employment. So, if he cannot find another job soon, he said he would have to move back to the Midwest.
“And I like him, but not enough to want to support him,” she added.
So, she came up with a pretty generous alternative. She decided to offer him the rental suite in her house for a very good price compared to other rentals in her area.
She figured that was a great way to give him an opportunity to find work and allow them both to ease into the idea of moving in together.
Unfortunately, though, her plan kind of backfired on her. In fact, she got accused of being ridiculous for expecting him to pay rent money since she does not have to pay a mortgage on her house.
She was taken aback and told him that, of course, where he lived and what he felt comfortable paying for rent was his decision. But she reiterated that she was just not ready to move in with him yet.
Then, he ended up asking if she could just loan him some money to tide him over until he found a new job. And surprisingly, she actually said yes.
But, she did have some reasonable expectations about the loan. For example, she told him she would only hand over the money if they both agreed it was an official loan with paperwork– which was a very smart decision, in my opinion.
Plus, her parents always taught her never to loan money without paperwork unless the funds were truly a gift that she did not expect to be paid back.
Honestly, though, he did not understand that concept at all. Instead, he actually just accused her of trying to abuse him financially– and she was appalled.
She thought she was just being generous by offering him a nice rental suite at a discounted rate– especially because he would be forced to move across the country if it was not for her.
But, at the same time, his comments have stuck with her. So now, she has been left wondering if refusing to let him move in with her for free or giving him a loan off the books was the wrong way to handle this situation.
If he would have to pay rent on any apartment– no matter where he lived– why do you think he is so opposed to paying her rent money? Does it sound like he is perhaps trying to take advantage of her finances? If you were caught in the same situation, how would you handle it?
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